Guys-When do you know you're not interested in the girl? By the first date, or do you wait as long as the third in order to figure it out?
2006-09-17 19:29:53 · 9 answers · asked by x_filequeen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its really not so hard to tell, and usually I'm right (although I'll admit not always).
The thing that every guy I know does is we rule out too many women too quickly (we think highly of ourselves and like to think of ourselves as having very high and exacting standards), but give us time (and this can be a lot) and sometimes we'll change our minds.
For the snap judgment, I'll ask -- does this girl have her life together, is this girl fairly well educated, does she have a good job, is she in good shape, does she present herself well, is she fun and interesting and going to expose me to new things, does she play music or paint or something like that, does she dress well etc.
For the later judgment, the consideration is how "compatible" we are. I realize this may sound open-ended and unclear, but its the truth -- it has to do with the general feeling we have towards someone. "When Harry Met Sally" is right, typically women that a guy can be friends with he's "interested in."
2006-09-17 19:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seem to know by the first date whether or not I'm interested in anything long term. Doesn't mean I stop seeing the girl though. I believe in seeing things through and getting to know people better before I stop dating that person.
2006-09-17 19:33:11 · answer #2 · answered by Ian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. When she goes to the bathroom and vomits up the expensive dinner I just bought her
2. When she brings her boyfriend over
3. When she brings her girlfriend over
4. When she starts looking at the dog with misty eyes
5. When she sets fire to my apartment
6. When she bites me in a very sensitive area
7. When she constantly wears the same outfit
8. And never washes it
9. When she complains about how much of a mess the place is, but never cleans it.
2006-09-17 20:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by askthepizzaguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually I know I am not interested when I flirt with her and the conversation is just not interesting or she doesn't show interest in me. However, by the first date I usually know if there is something there or not.
2006-09-17 19:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I'd know on the first date. It depends what u r after. Something serious or a fling.
Either way I think by the first date I'd know where I stood.
2006-09-17 19:32:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually the first 6 mins, but thats just me, i have 5 sisters so i have this personality radar thingy
2006-09-17 19:35:33 · answer #6 · answered by Pie Man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by the first 20 mins.
2006-09-17 19:34:04 · answer #7 · answered by lesuiremike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know pretty much off the bat. Why would I bother asking her out otherwise.
2006-09-17 19:33:25 · answer #8 · answered by adamvanessen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly I will not date with whom i do not like , and when I feel , I trust my feeling.
2006-09-17 19:32:59 · answer #9 · answered by kaku j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋