I have been talking to this guy for 8 months. He seems to be loving, shy, and sensitive. His past relationships didn't work out because he is impotent. I really like him, and I told him that I still want to be with him anyway. He tells me that he doesn't want to be serious, and I know its because he had his heart broken more than once in the past. Sometimes I feel like he has really given up on love. He seems to really like holding me in his arms and being close to me, but I think that he is afraid I will break his heart. I want to stay with him, but I don't know how long it will take for him to really feel like I want to be his forever.
2006-09-17 19:14:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i must commend you for your humanity, heart, and empathetic observations...
you can't really blame the man... i mean,...if i had my heart broken from craptacular women who left just because of an uncotrollable medical challenge, i'd feel pretty miserable too, especially if he's heard that story before...
but there ARE medicines out there, now...so he can get help...if he is that bothered by it, offer to go with him and seek help together...hand and hand..show him you'll be there through thick n thin...
don't give up... have patience...keep SHOWING him what you say....so he sees and believes you....
hope it works for you both...
2006-09-17 19:25:13 · answer #1 · answered by j-man 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My situation is a very different one but my husband's first wife died and he swore off of women after that because she cheated on him with his brother. He was afraid that he would have his heart broken again too. He was very unsure for a long time but he's better now. The only thing I can say is to make sure he knows that you will never intentionally hurt him and let him come around on his own.
One more thing. Has he ever tried Viagra?
2006-09-17 19:21:38 · answer #2 · answered by debbiethornberry007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something you really need to decide for yourself if you want to stay around for. Needless to say it sounds like he tends to push people out of his life, out of fear of being hurt again. Sometimes it just takes a lot of patience to build up that trust so he does see that your not like everyone else and really are there for the long haul. Good luck in your decision.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-17 19:17:15 · answer #3 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, be happy. Patience on your part will reveal whether or not he's worthy of you. If he's just afraid that you'll hurt him by leaving him after he's given you his heart, then each day with him will serve as reassurance that you truly want to be with him and not ever leave him. In other words, time is your friend. Just let the days roll by and do your work for you. When the magic number of days that it takes to convince him have gone by, he'll be yours.
2006-09-17 19:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as what u said he is afraid to get hurt again...i think he is afraid....we woman r different than man,some woman can leave 2x week (sex)but guys im not sure...but if u really love him u need to show him and feel him that u really care for him.....
2006-09-17 19:27:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, you won't get anything out of the relationship without sex. I mean, you might really connect with him, but there will be always be something missing in your relationship. But if you aren't a sex freak then maybe it will work. But deep down inside, all of us are sex freaks.
2006-09-17 19:17:06 · answer #6 · answered by ks_stud_2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes a long time some times just hang in Thai for him he may wake up soon hope so good luck to you
2006-09-17 20:18:24 · answer #7 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May God bless you two with HIS WONDERFUL LOVE!
Pray for him, be good and carrying, show the love you have for him...and pray for him and for you! i think you deserve each other, be good!
2006-09-17 19:18:36 · answer #8 · answered by tatal_nostru2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somebody has very rightly said
"LOVE REMAINS FOREVER,ONLY PARTNERS CHANGE."
give him some time & make him trust you & believe in you n LET CUPID USE HIS ARROWS N LOVE'S MAGICAL POTION WILL DEFINITELY WORK.
GOOD LUCK
2006-09-17 19:43:54 · answer #9 · answered by glamdoll 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys can't be brought into love. it has to happen on its own.
2006-09-17 19:17:00 · answer #10 · answered by sweets 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋