he's wanting to get married
2006-09-17 18:50:20 · 34 answers · asked by prettynpink0123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have this same dilema, I feel that he is the one for me and just being patient and really observing to see it he is actually doing what he say he is doing.....not every situation is the same....ask God for guidance here, listen to your heart and never be a door mat, EVER!!! You are a queen and must be treated as so......a man will treat you how you treat yourself so be that queen that cherishes herself above all, and be the bit*ch that is hard to please so you can keep him on your toes (they love the game of not know if they really got you)....Many blessings to you sister.
2006-09-17 20:57:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to tell if he has really changed. Speaking from a personal experience, I dated this guy for a while and the relationship ended. A couple of years passed and we started being friends again and then started dating(things seemed to be different this time; so I thought) .........when he asked me to marry him I was so excited. In time though, some of his old ways started to surface. I was wearing a 2 1/2 carat ring and I caught him with another girl. Now I had changed my life(meaning accepted the Lord as my personal Savior). He had started going to church with me and everything, but had he changed.....No. But I was blinded by Love and couldn't see when all of the signs were right in front of me. I was caught up in the planning of it all. It's exciting planning a wedding. I am glad that I took the blinders off and saw what was right in front of me. My advice to you is not to get excited in the planning, don't ignore the warning signs and make sure that he has really changed.
2006-09-18 02:25:34 · answer #2 · answered by DaddysGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be great if everyone is given another chance for the wrong they done. I am not sure whether he is your ex-bf or ex-husband. Whatever it is, you don't have to marry him yet until you are very sure he has changed a lot. It is very difficult or almost impossible for someone to change another person's character or personality. That person must really makes a lot of effort himself... not just for you. He will be in bondage if he change just for you. Give yourself more time ... marriage is not just a simple word, it is the responsibilities that follows. Lots of broken marriages are happening because they did not think, rethink and shoulder that magic word.
2006-09-17 19:01:34 · answer #3 · answered by Nice Guy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO. NO. NO. Never go back and try to change the past. It never works. Don't deny that if you re-married him,you wouldn't be hoping to find what was lost the first time around. You won't find it and depending on why you divorced in the first place, old wounds are bound to come up sooner or later.
2006-09-17 18:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by nu_shashita 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will only know if he has really changed. What does your heart say, do you think he has really changed. If you think he has changed give him a chance because I am sure if it was the other way around would he give you another chance. It is a big decision you have to make for yourself especially when it comes to getting married to him.
2006-09-17 18:58:19 · answer #5 · answered by sandysweet 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on what he did that bothered you. If it is small scale... like annoyances then yes. But if it is about trust issues, or communication issues, they really don't change. Those things are embedded deep within a person. Marriage is after all forever (well suppose to be anyway) I would definitely take it slow and make him PROVE to you that he has changed before you think about marrying him. That is absolutely fair and he should agree to that.
2006-09-17 18:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole83 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A very tricky question, indeed! Give it a try, yes, but not before you have thoroughly gone thro'the process again of dating, spending enough time with each other to re-discover each other and given a chance to yourself to really make up the mind! Start all over again! Good luck!
2006-09-17 19:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by swanjarvi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of more than qualified men out there willing to treat you like a queen...don't settle for some guy that you have a bad history with anyway take your time and find a better companion...that is if you really think you deserve or can acquire something better!
2006-09-17 18:59:58 · answer #8 · answered by gunslinger08 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try counseling to find out if really he's changed and if you've really forgiven him for whatever it is that he had done in the past to make you break up with him in the first place. The counselor should also help you work through your past issues and give you ideas as to what will help you with your "future" relationship.
2006-09-18 05:02:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just playing games with you and knows if he gets you back he will have more control over you. You broke up for a reason remember what that reason is and go find yourself a good man to have a relationship with. Exes are exes for reasons.
2006-09-17 19:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by bucksolutions1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋