how to end a relationship with an emotional abuser
2006-09-17 18:44:36 · 21 answers · asked by bearded dragon lover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should seek professional help. they'll help you to get a restraining order or something like that to prevent the abuser from getting any where near you after you leave him. It's safer for you too.
2006-09-17 18:48:53 · answer #1 · answered by peacelover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a real hard thing to deal with. If you know that you are in a bad relationship, and are asking how to get out then you have already taken the first step. You need to get out, pack your things and move....That is if you live with the problem. Otherwise tell them that you are not happy and that it is over. Then do not take their calls, don't go to meet them anywhere to talk. Any time that you give them the slightest bit of attention, that person will take it as a foot in the door. They will use your emotions to get the better of you and pull you back in. The best way is a clean break. Don't give them a any rope. Otherwise it wont be them swinging in the end it will be yourself. Emotional abuse is one of the first steps to physical abuse. And once that starts it is the hardest of all things to break free of. Good Luck......*Blessed Be*
2006-09-18 01:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by Arwen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional abuse is hard to leave, especially when they find out they no longer have control of the relationship. If you feel that you are in physical danger, contact a womens abuse shelter to help you, as well get a protective order against him.
Needless to say, just knowing that you want to leave shows that you now have the strength you forgot you had. Get up, pack your things and leave. Good luck!
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-18 01:47:45 · answer #3 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is no easy way to do it. You just have to prepare yourself and be stubborn. Being an emotional abuser he/she will probably do a lot to try and make you feel guilty for wanting to leave, don't take any of it, stick to your guns. It really helps if you have someone to support you through it, whether it be a good friend or a family member, having someone there gives you even more courage to stand up to your partner.
2006-09-18 01:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by phoenix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide where you see yourself and develop a plan to reach your goals. This will keep you encouraged. Try to save some money to escape or find a family member that you can stay with just long enough to get on your feet. If you don't have a support system, call the National Domestic Abuse hotline and they can give you numbers to shelters who will help you find a home of your own and a safe place to stay until then. Prayer was what helped me through my ordeal, but I got through it. You can do it, just keep your health, well being and goals in mind and do what you have to do. You deserve better.Be encouraged and walk in wisdom.
2006-09-18 01:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some great advice, just leave. or you'll have bigger problems than emotional abuse. these sort of people usually will advance to physical abuse. so leave no and as someone else on here said don't look back
2006-09-18 01:49:23 · answer #6 · answered by Scott G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave, and don't talk to him or her. And if he/she threatens violence in any way, get a f*cking restraining order and enforce it. It's hard, I've done it. Just do not do not do not even speak to him or her after you go because emotional abusers are great at manipulating you back into their lives. Change your phone number, e-mail, whatever you have to do.
2006-09-18 01:49:12 · answer #7 · answered by S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just walk away!
u dun deserve to be abused in any way, not emotionally not physically.
if u're afraid of ur partner, then get someone u trust to protect u from ur partner. a good example will be ur parents.
my bestfren was in an abusive relationship for about a year before she walkd away from it. she broke things off with him right in front of her mother. u know what's that guy's reaction? he CRIED!
these abusive people are not strong at all. it's because they are weak n insecure that they resort to being abusive to their own partner.
walk away!! n dun tink of when is the best time to do it. NOW is the time. dun wait too long n dun u ever EVER EVER!!!! listen to his 'but i love u, i promise to change for the better' crap.
be strong.
god bless u.
2006-09-18 01:50:39 · answer #8 · answered by keira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you think you love this guy....but just check this out...would you be with a guy that treats you like ****...tells you stuff all the time or would you rather be single and happy...be able to do whatever you want without some asshole telling you **** about it? There are soo many guys out there...you don't have to jump into a relationship right away..first love yourself and then you can open your heart to the right person who will love you right back and treat you right...Trust me, I know what I am telling you...your wasting your time with this piece of ****! good luck...
2006-09-18 01:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With alot of support and comfort of friends and family. Although you may not think he is cabable of being violent. Make sure that you are protected because in a situation like this, he could turn violent. End it NOW! Get out fast and do not let another day go wasted with him. God bless you.
2006-09-18 01:46:46 · answer #10 · answered by oneradnursey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋