i love this guy, and where really good as friends but lately he hasnt been the nice guy i fell in love with, now he forces me to have sex with him, and if i dont he gets violent, i love him so much that i dont tell any one what his doing to me, but im so scared and sick of it
2006-09-17 18:43:07 · 18 answers · asked by Boots 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You HAVE to turn him in. It will only get worse. If he is doing this sh*t to you then he dosen't love you. Turn him in now before he kills you. You need to know that he will never be the same person you fell in love with ever again, he thinks he has control over you now and it will get worse.
2006-09-17 18:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by jrnh5150 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please re-read what you wrote under your question. How can you love anyone that would do that to you? The buck stops there. Seriously. Don't justify that knowing someone for a long time and loving them in the past gives you the grounds for still loving someone after they sexually abuse you.
Seek help from a professional counselor. They'll be able to get deep into your brain and tell you why you're feeling why you're feeling. They'll also give you coping and exit strategies on getting out of your relationship.
2006-09-17 18:48:38 · answer #2 · answered by Lizzie T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex without consent is R A P E . There is no doubt about it dear. Love or not you are being abused. Don't take it. You need help. A man who doesn't respect you is not worthy of your love & affection. Get out of this relationship. Remember the most imp person in your life is you yourself. The violence is a sign that this man is not right for you. You DO NOT have to take any of this crap. Just tell him enough is enough and I suggest you leave him.Confide in your parents, an older sibling or a trusted friend. You need to move on.I hope you take my advise JUST LEAVE THIS CREEP he IS NOT WORTHY OF YOU.
2006-09-17 18:52:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need help in getting away from this man. Gather up your self-esteem along with your belongings and get away from this man. It makes my stomach turn when you say that you love him. How in the world can you love someone who is violent with you. No means no no matter if it is a friend, lover or stranger. Rape is rape, and when sex is forced upon you, that is rape my dear. Get away from this man, and then get help in recovering your self-confidence and self-esteem. There are crisis centers available, just ask any hospital ER, and they will advise you where to go for shelter and counseling. Go now, things will only get worse, once he knows that you will put up with this behavior, he will only continue to be violent with you. We treat people how to treat us! Don't put up with this behavior, you deserve better.
2006-09-17 18:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seeing how the unfortunate answer lies right within your question, i am sorry to say,
LEAVE HIM. RIGHT NOW. and TELL THE POLICE! rape is rape, and it is NOT cool! it is also not your fault! HE is hurting YOU. if he doesn't love you now, he won't love you when he's in jail for raping you, so you're much better off protecting yourself, and possibly others! besides, i'm sure he'll get what's coming to him in the prison shower room! haha send him a soap-on-a-rope - and cut the rope!
love is NOT violent! love should NOT be threatening!
protect yourself, so you CAN find someone who will treat you right!
2006-09-17 18:54:52 · answer #5 · answered by j-man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having to be forced, it makes me think mabey you don't love him you are just trying convence yourself he loves you, I was in a similar situation where I knew I wanted to leave but it was like I had unfinished buisness with him. Get away and find someone you desire to be with. Sex should be mutual and fun, not forced. God can help, Prayer is your answer.
2006-09-17 18:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by lisa_in_ok 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever read this book? dreamland? well in it, theres a girl with a similar problem.... and well... in the end.... she was badly hurt and that guy got arrested.... and if he hasnt been the nice guy u fell in love with.... its either he actually changed...... or he was using u all along.... so be careful....... i personally think u shud break up with him..... and if he gets violet over that u shud call the police or at lease talk to som1 close to u.... or its gonna get worse
2006-09-17 18:48:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.You say you love him.Then what's the problem.Have sex with him.If you happily have sex with him, then he will start listening to you.The more you protest him the more violent he becomes.If your love to him is true, allow him to do whatever he wants and then get him in your control.If your love is not true,then just get rid of him. Don't confuse too much
2006-09-17 19:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by idsalex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You MUST find someone you can confide in who will help you extricate yourself from this horriffic situation. No means no and you have rights over how you use your body, not him. Report him to the police, I bet you aren't the first girl he's done this to. Good luck.
2006-09-17 18:49:38 · answer #9 · answered by hrh_gracee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is bad news.
You don't love him.... you love the person you THOUGHT he was and there's a big difference.
Ditch 'em and enlist help from your family if need be.
2006-09-17 18:46:45 · answer #10 · answered by sueflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋