i met this girl a few months back. she has a bf but we hang out a lot w some of our friends and we enjoy each others company. like 20 minutes ago she called me up to tell me that she just broke up w her bf and she was asking me some advice. she told me how she was w that guy for almost 3 years. i like her and all but i dont think il be able to top her ex boyfriend and i really dont want to screw up our relationship and hurt her because shes a really sweet girl. what should i do???
2006-09-17 18:18:21 · 12 answers · asked by mrgudboy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i met this girl a few months back. we hanged out a lot w some of our friends and we enjoy each others company. she called me like 20 minutes ago telling me that she broke up w her bf. the thing is that i think im one of the reason why she broke up w him. she was w that guy for almost 3 years. i like her and all but i dont think il be able to top her ex boyfriend and i really dont want to screw up our relationship and hurt her because shes a really sweet girl. what should i do???
2006-09-17 18:50:50 · update #1
hold yourself back, take it easy & slowly. last thing you want is she on a rebound jumping to u, emotionally still unstable & likely to idealize u as the opposite prefection of her ex.
2006-09-17 18:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be her friend. If you move in on her now, you're only going to be the rebound guy...so just listen to her, support her, encourage her about everything and just basically be her friend. If she has any feelings for you...she'll realize them soon enough but don't pressurize her...she just left a 3 year relationship...there's a strong chance that next relationship will fail because she'll still be on the rebound and if that guy is you - you'll have lost her friendship too by then.
2006-09-18 01:21:45 · answer #2 · answered by DrSH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait a bit and see where things go. You do not want to be the rebound boyfriend and end up getting hurt yourself. If it is ment to be then only time will tell.
2006-09-18 01:22:17 · answer #3 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be supportive and a good friend to her right now. She and her boyfriend might get back together. Maybe this is just a two day spat. If you try to make your move now, it would be un-gentlemanly. She is hurt, upset, and vulnerable. She needs a friend right now, not a vulture to dive in and attempt to capitalize on her temporary weakness. Try to make her feel good about herself. This will also boost your confidence.
2006-09-18 01:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by Ayliann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the time being you should be there for her as a friend. See how things develop between her bf and you girl.
2006-09-18 01:21:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time to find out more about her first... you don't have to jump the gun now. Her answer may very much be skewed by the fact that she just broke up.
2006-09-18 01:22:05 · answer #6 · answered by syrope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to be there for her then go for it. If you are a person who likes to play the field, don't go for it; instead you should just keep on being her friend.
2006-09-18 01:25:18 · answer #7 · answered by LA S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u really like her den go 4it with ur confident in it , u should tell2 her tat my door will always open 4u.
2006-09-18 01:25:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should wait about a couple weeks for her to get over it then ask her out
2006-09-18 01:23:09 · answer #9 · answered by Slash123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bang her dude.
2006-09-18 01:27:06 · answer #10 · answered by jrnh5150 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋