My boyfriend is out of town a lot for work. We recently took a month break, and got back together a week ago. We just had the most amazing date and he tells me all the time "he can't live without me!" Well I just found out that he has been asking other people to grab drinks with him when I am unable to, people he doesn't know. And not by him, I found out a different way and I have written proof! How do I talk to him about this???
2006-09-17 18:13:36 · 14 answers · asked by Mimi smashes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to him about it and show your proof if you have anything solid. Let him know that you don't like this aspect of his behaviour and how do you feel this is going to affect your long term relationship with each other. Just be open and honest and see what he says. Pick a time when you both are relaxed so that he doesn't get on the defensive as quick.
2006-09-17 18:15:48 · answer #1 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't necessarily mean he's cheating. Hell if he wanted to cheat, I don't think he would go through the trouble of asking you to begin with. But if you want to talk to him about it (which I don't think you have reason for much suspiscion, given the circumstances) just ask him. Maybe you shouldn't do it in a confronting manner though, since it is my belief he isn't up to no good. Just bring it up in a round about, non intentional way and see what he has to say about it. If you want you can e-mail me with more details so I can help you more. galloway_777@yahoo. Good luck.
2006-09-17 18:18:12 · answer #2 · answered by Frank P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By what you've said (you're finding letters he wrote--how?), there's not much trust. I'd suggest direct confrontation, just ask him about the other dates, and if he denies, show him the letters. Then you can break up with him.
2006-09-17 18:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by Dwight D J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just asked him. A women instinct is sometimes true. But in this case yours is true. What you need to do is ask him. You should not have to be a detective on this. Or he could be just trying to meet new people.
2006-09-17 18:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by incredible 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe he needed this time to really just to get hold of his feelings and to know if you were the right person for him. And you guys were broken up so how can that be cheating??
2006-09-17 18:18:33 · answer #5 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depend on the sex. If is girl he slept with her because they got drank. If a man they just hanging out. You can ask him over dinner.
2006-09-17 18:21:28 · answer #6 · answered by msmidnight1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a player. Get rid of him. Don't have your heart broken (over time) by such a person.
His talk is cheap.
2006-09-17 18:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by syrope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to have a relationship with him you need to talk to him about it. If you love him you need to forgive him. If you do not really love him, move on and find someone who really loves you and will not cheat on you.
2006-09-17 18:14:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were like me, you would just come out and say it...you dont have to have written proof..say i knwo that you did this and this and this....that's the way i am..
2006-09-17 18:19:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cant trust him then break up...A drink is a drink.......do u have proof he is sleeping with someone?
2006-09-17 18:15:48 · answer #10 · answered by Deshawn & Keshawn's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋