So I met this guy feb of this year at a party, there has been a lot of chemistry n attraction, we actually ended up drunk n having sex in the back seat of his truck the first night.. we had sex a couple more times and then he left for philly since he lives there but only comes back here for winter for work... so he came to see me 3 weeks ago and also last week, we had a great time and we started talking... i want to build a friendship with this guy but i dont know where to start, since i rarely see him, i just wanna jump his bones when are together, but i know that it takes more than sex... is there any hope? what steps should i take to build on this? pls. give me specific examples. best answer gets 10 points!
p.s. we always have greatt sexx!
2006-09-17 18:13:20 · 16 answers · asked by I am your weakness! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Turning your current sexual relationship into a bf/gf thing will be hard. First thing you must make him feel that he is special and you don't have one night stands often. Once you get past that issue (which is in the back of his mind) you must have something in common so he can enjoy being with you in a none sexual situation. Bottom line you must get to know each other. Be yourself and let him choose.
Things to avoid:
Don't be needy.
Don't be pushy about having a relationship.
2006-09-17 18:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by TONY SPEAKING 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's just it. You jumped the gun and went straight to sex, so now you're trying to paddle backwards into a relationship. See if he's that into you or not because he might just be using you as a sex partner, and not as a girlfriend. Does he contact you when he's in Philly, do you keep in touch? Anyway, besides all that...the only way to be his girlfriend is to spend a lot of time with him, be a good listener, have great conversations and do other things together besides have sex. It will sort itself out soon enough.
2006-09-17 18:17:55 · answer #2 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You always have great sex? So what? sex is over rated, cos anyone can have great sex.
And as to if you can be his friend? sure not a difficult thing. But a gf? i dont think so. Cos guys who go for girls like you, usually jump from one girl to the other, without the girl ever knowing.
Seen it done way too many times. If you just like him cos he ***** you right, than that just goes to show you stupid you are. Best answer cant always be on your side :P
2006-09-17 18:20:42 · answer #3 · answered by DudeWantsAnswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to burst your bubble but it ain't gonna happen. Don't you think if he wanted something more, he would let you know. Your just a another story he tells to his boys about instant booty call. That's all your have is good sex, leave it at that. You'll never get more from him, and down deep inside you know it. Honestly if you did have this guy as your boyfriend, don't you think he would play on you ? Your young and full of energy, either take it as a booty call or settle down and find a boy friend.
2006-09-17 18:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, sry once a booty call always a booty call. I'd hate to take it farther but. A booty call is a last resort, who you call when you don't score with anyone else. It's like a fail-safe, so no matter how bad the night is your still gonna get some. That's why you are the booty call, cuz he doesn't wanna date you. He wants other girls, but if he's horny and doesn't get with them......... He's got you.
I'm sorry but that's the way it is. My advice is find a real guy that treats you better than just some booty.
2006-09-17 20:24:21 · answer #5 · answered by amish_renegade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont confuse great sex & distance between you 2 "making the heart grow fonder" as a potential foundation for a loving relationship... once you actually get to know each other on a more regular/daily basis and the sex gets monotonous because of that, you may not think he is all that great a material for a long term thing... just get to know him better as a person before you start changing your life to accomodate what you think might be Love...!!!
2006-09-17 18:31:10 · answer #6 · answered by darthmawler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you id just stay **** buddys with this dude 4 real, sounds like you just wanna have sex with each other and if you get into a relationship it might cause some problems like one of you may actually fall for the other and one of you may just want to have fun. but what youve said sounds like you just wanna have fun, so no id not get in a relationship with him, and of how many times you mentioned sex yes their is hope for you two but itll probibly be hard as hell to resist sex, because almost no relationship that works almost no one has sex on the first night only the ones who are in for the sex but yea theirs hope if your willing to go through hell to do so, but like the guy above me said sopunds like the guy is just in it for the sex as well so most likely if you get in a relatoonship with him one of you will get hurt most likely by the way im a guy.
2006-09-17 18:20:39 · answer #7 · answered by Remedy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you imagine he has replaced then perhaps he has.. in my case i might want to assert bypass ahead and date him. I dated a guy like this.. and we were at the same time for 2 years +, he has been there for me.. I easily have a baby who isn't his and he facilitates me safeguard him(baby is before him.. so I didnt cheat or something) yet we had some topics before everything.. have self belief topics.. yet on the grounds that not something.. i recognize i will have self belief him 100percent.. now.. i look at it like this.. quite some adult men wont allow you to recognize the authentic #, the picture of maximum females wont, so the actual undeniable reality that he informed you... I recommend he might want to of in basic terms lied.. this is compared to you recognize each and every lady and may want to make sure.. yet you'll have some insecurities.. yet in basic terms look at it like this..he has been with quite some females..and if he's conscious of that he needs you...he's probable positive.. i recommend he has experience.. different ppl are gonna say dont do it.. yet from my modern experience i might want to assert provide him a try... ** in spite of the undeniable fact that the actual undeniable reality that you're exhibiting such quite some doubts.. might want to nicely be your answer.*** and in accordance to different solutions.. in basic terms b/c he has been round doesnt recommend he has an STD.. you may sleep with one individual who has it.. thats all it takes.. or the first individual you've been ever with might want to be the whore and also you would possibly want to capture something. i recognize extra #'s equates volatile...yet provide up kidding your self..
2016-11-27 21:16:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop the bootie calling... If he respects you things will get better if you don't hear from him again then you are better off without him.
But lets be honest here why would he be interested in a relationship with you if he can have all of the perks without any of the responsibility?
2006-09-17 18:17:22 · answer #9 · answered by David P 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We do something else besides sex with him. Start with a walk in the park...
2006-09-17 18:16:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋