2006-09-17 18:01:29 · 9 answers · asked by Joe G 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
because it is so traumatic you will never ever forget...and im guessing you loved her more than anything and can't find anyone to live up to her.
the image is burned in your head, and death is terrible in itself but when someone kills themself it makes it so much worse. you probably wonder why and how you could have stopped it and why she did it to you etc.
i suggest not compairing her to new girls. seeing woman for who they are and not how they are compared to her. there are many nice girls in the world and you will love again in a different way.
going to therapy really helps a lot....you shoudl try...some people have harder times getting over things than others. i still have things that when i think about them haunt me from over 5 years ago...but i just realize that life changes and you must move on
2006-09-17 18:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by 47skittles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, you now know how angyr and selfish an act suicide is. Her anger is making you feel guilty 4 years later. If she was concerned about how you felt, she would have found many of the alternatives to suicide. Since she was so self-centered (suicidal people are quite self-centered), she did not consider how this would hurt you.
Try to give up the guilt as you did not kill her, she did it to herself. Forgive yourself because you could not have prevented it. People who are bound and determined to commit suicide cannot be stopped. You could not have stopped her. Forgiving yourself is the start of moving on.
She was responsible for her death, not you.
2006-09-17 23:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by adamsjrcn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure its normal for you to be feeling this way after such a traumatic thing happened. I think you should go to grief counselling to help you get things off your chest. You may have feelings of guilt that will make the pain even more intense. Best of luck, I hope there is some one on here who gives you some advice that helps you cope abit better.
2006-09-17 18:09:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are traumatized. You may also feel some guilt which is normal. Sometimes people in your situation feel guilty as if they could of done more to prevent it from happening. You need to get into "talk therapy" if you havent already done so. It could help you so much with this particular issue.
2006-09-17 19:14:38 · answer #4 · answered by jenn87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you are human. she was important to you and you loved her. i dealt with something like this myself almost 4 years ago and i blame myself. i dont know if it is how you feel sometimes but u have to remind yourself that she was suicidal and there probably wasnt anything that u could do to stop it.life will continue to be a little hard because u cared for her so much but u have to realize it wasnt your fault and that she was sick and is probably watching over you every day. as time goes on, the pain will lessen i promise it will. if u havent looked into a grief therapist do so, they will put it all into perspective. take care and just know i feel for you.
2006-09-17 19:03:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be you feel guilty. Sometimes people feel guilty about thing that aren't their fault, that is completely normal. May be you feel like you could have done something to prevent it, but didn't and now is too late to do anything. You should seek some professional help.
2006-09-17 18:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you loved her! :( that is soooo sad :(( and tragic. im so sorry. nobody blames you for missing her and wanting her back, but no matter how much it hurts....you have to LIVE. Enjoy life as you can and dont be dead inside because of her. Its good to remember her and remember the good things she brought to your life, but everyone makes decisions...and the one she made was selfish. Dont be selfish and deprive ur friends and family of ur real self because you feel guilty to live.
2006-09-17 18:06:22 · answer #7 · answered by Dead Birds Don't Poop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you aren't blaming yourself for her suicide? Please don't. Suicide is a terrible thing & leaves the loved ones hurting & wondering if they could have stopped it. Don't second guess yourself. See a counselor to help you grieve the loss & get on with your life. Good luck.
2006-09-17 18:08:39 · answer #8 · answered by Da Bomb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because you must believe in past lives and all things had to happen for reason.
2006-09-18 08:22:19 · answer #9 · answered by chainsaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋