Men...the same goes for you as well....is she the one?
Marriage is a very serious issue. It is not to be taken lightly. It is a LIFE commitment. Before you walk down that isle, youmust be sure that you both (not just one) are making the right decision. I mean...Do you really love each other. And if so, is this your definition of love:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
1 Corinthians 13: 4-8
Please take this seriously. If this does not match your love for each other, take time to make sure this is right. I say this from the bottom of my heart....DON"T WIND UP DIVORCED!...Stop it before it happens.
Is he (she) the one?
2006-09-17 17:58:43 · 21 answers · asked by Dead 2 Self 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
yes, without a doubt.. we have fought many times, seen each other at our best and at our worst... i am completely sure that i want to spend my life with my fiance.
2006-09-17 19:31:05 · answer #1 · answered by Skeeterbug M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is an experience. Love is an adventure. I really think that marriage is just an official thing, It does not really matter to me if someone builds a family without getting married, or anything. If you keep on thinking if he/she is the one, if you keep on judging/waiting for the perfect one, you will never find anybody.
You will never know what might happen in the future.. You can go down the aisle convinced that your partner is the most perfect one, but things happen unexpectedly, feelings change. I know alot of arranged marriage that works, and I also know of 'true-love' marriage that doesn't.( and of course, otherwise for both of them)
I can be very sure without a doubt that he is the man i want to spend the rest of my life with, then, what 30 years later, things just doesn't work anymore, feelings die, or something... what can i do if I would have to end up in a divorce? You can never guess the future. Love and marriage is a risk that i am willing to take nevertheless.
2006-09-18 01:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by shuddupfirst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was a time I thought I knew enough to be married....and so I did get married. I'd known her 2 years and I ignored the fights, her poor family background, and other warning signs. The marriage was rocky almost from the start, and we were divorced after 4 years. (Being divorced at 27 sucks! I was the youngest person at every "divorce support group" I went to.)
I took some time to learn about "me" and found a woman going through her 2nd divorce. A few things concerned me, but I got to know her and her family. We got along incredibly well. After 6 months of dating, I proposed. We were married after 13 months of dating. Now it's been 2 years of marriage, we haven't had a fight, we never yell, and she really is my best friend.
It's not about how long you've dated, it's not about ultimatums or manipulation, it's not about jealousy or any other childish emotion. It's about making the COMMITMENT to each other to be married forever, for better or worse, richer or poorer, sickness and health. No exceptions, no excuses, period.
2006-09-18 01:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by Dwight D J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is not the love that makes someone the best choice. I mean, i love my husband, but it is more about the fact that we are willing to work through everything, and are "commited to the commitment". As in, we make the decision to stay together, and work through things no matter what. And sometimes i don't honestly feel "the love" the way i thought it would always be(cause i'm mad at him or we just don't spend much time together and get to connect), but i can always remember that i would not have made that commitment unless i had real love and caring for him. and things always get better after we have less outside commitments and more time for each other.
2006-09-18 01:07:52 · answer #4 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that anyone entering marriage is going to take it lightly. Especially with the divorce rate at 50% and with so much on the line. Don't you think we all know it is a major commitment? Yes, there are always going to be dumb and naive people out there, plus those marrying for the baby's name. Also, please note that most are not walking down an "isle", but rather an "aisle". Thanks for the quote. It's a classic!
2006-09-18 01:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by superior d 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When youre in love mutually, there is no room for doubt, particularly on your wedding day.
All doubts should be tended to prior to marriage. Knowing ahead of time that the law of nature throws in those things that cause problems to arise in the future and working together faithfully through them helps keep the relationship long and strong.
2006-09-18 01:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can feel 100 % sure but then yet in the back of your mind you are taking a risk, and that's all life is. Taking risk and hoping that at the end you wont regret it.
You cant predict the future so you have to go by instinct and what your conscious tells u.
2006-09-18 01:04:07 · answer #7 · answered by sugar507 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sure that he is the man I wish to spend the remainder of my life with! He's my best friend and my soul mate! We're gradeschool sweet hearts, and we've never been more in love! He saved me from a world of hurt and heart ache!
2006-09-18 01:27:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrying someone is a really really big decision it is suppose to be forever. Before you get married get counseling from your pastor and or family. Get some advice on what to expect, you don't have to live together to fine about your potential mate. Communicate with one another share your likes and dislikes/ pet peeves. My parents have been together for years and are still learning about one another
2006-09-18 02:06:36 · answer #9 · answered by sandysweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More preaching.....how boring does this get? How dare you say "Don't wind up divorced?" not everyone who has had a bad marriage is guilty of not trying, my ex cheated on me, I was 100% faithful, and divorce because your partner has committed adultery is a SCRIPTURAL reason for divorce, so stop preaching rubbish, even God has given us a way out of a bad and unfaithful marriage.
2006-09-18 06:50:50 · answer #10 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if she's the one. But there is no such thing as the one. By working together you find out that the person next to you is the one, just like that. Looking for the one is absurd.
2006-09-18 01:04:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋