who was in the wrong?

Question

who do you think was in the right?
I was living at home with my parents I have a daughter who is 2 yrs old.I have a nephew who is the same age and they were also staying there too.
some kind of glass was broken in the kitchen by the kids. afterwards,my mom started pushing my daughter around and she wasnt the one who broke the glass but she continued to get mad at her and push her.
my daughter just wanted her to carry her that was why she was crying.my nephew was there the whole time. and she wasnt doing the same thing to him.
so in turn I got mad and started yelling at my mom not to push my daughter around in which she yelled back so to avoid further argument I left the house with my daughter.
we later went back for our belongings and I moved in with my grandma.
was i right in moving out or was I over-reacting?
afterwards she told my dad that she wanted "her" house keys back and kept threatening me with little things.
if that was 2 sketchy then please say so ill give info

we were living there because we're in the process of looking for a place of our own. and we were not living off of my parents I had 2 jobs of my own and it was hard enough. I had bills to pay too not like I was a lazy mother.

Answer 1

a 2yrs old can't be held responsible 4 much, your mom is a grown-up & 1 that acting badly. u r right to be protective over your daughter. good u move out, u shd have move out long ago. your mom obviously sick of u in her house & uses all means to get u out even to a point of hurting your daughter.

Answer 2

Hi, there are several issues going on here:

If nobody actually SAW who broke the dish, then it's not fair to blame only one of the children. Regardless of who did it, it was an accident. Luckily neither of the children was hurt when it happened. Two 2-yr olds should probably not be left unsupervised around glass dishes.

Once the dish is broken, it's like crying over spilled milk. No point in that. Sweep it up & throw it away. Taking things out on a 2-yr old shows poor grandparenting skills & anger management issues. I don't blame you for standing up for your daughter and protecting her.

As for whether or not you did the right thing by moving out, that depends on whether that was an isolated incident or if similar events have happened in the past & if it's likely to happen again. You & your daughter both deserve a happy and safe place to live.

As to whether or not those are "her" housekeys, does she own the place? Where you paying her rent? If not, then that IS her place. Did Grandma give you keys to her place too?

Sounds like you should think about getting your own place for you & your child. That way you can visit relatives or have them visit you, yet you still have a place to go to that will truly be your own.

Hope that helps answer some of your questions. Good luck.

Answer 3

Your mother was wrong in pushing your daughter around.
You are the mother of your daughter, and any necessary discipline should come from you !!!

I would not consider your decision to move out as being an over- or under-reaction.
Let’s just call it a ‘normal reaction’ to the argument you had with your mother.

The fact that your mother said she wanted the keys back, suggests that she isn’t sorry for pushing your daughter around, and that you made the right decision to move in with your grandma !!!

Answer 4

Man that stinks!!!!!!
Things will break and can be replaced but family is hard to come by.Your Mom was wrong for getting upset period.Things happen to people that make them act weird, your mom was probably stressed about something else.From the look of your name I can relate with the pigheaded,unforgiving attitudes people carry in certain cultures.You need to go were you and your baby will be accepted unconditionally and live your life.
I wish you the best of luck.
My mother was a single parent and my sister and I both respect and admire her for all her sacrifices.
While you working and doing the things Moms do,please stop a moment and take care of you.

Answer 5

No matter who broke the glass, your mom should not be pushing her grandaughter. You are just protecting your daughter like any loving mother should. Don't feel bad about it. Tell your dad about your side of the story, and give her back her keys and try to live independently.

You should only let your mom see your daughter if she'd agree to stop bullying her and yourself.

Answer 6

actually it does sound too sketchy, but from the little you've said, it MAY seem that you overreacted but you have to tell yourself if there is more for leaving because if there are existing problems either big or small you have two choices. 1 - the sit down and resolve the problem or 2 - find the second best solution, for example this present situation, put your daughter and yourself first. and remember it's never too late to sit and resolve a problem " even though you made the decision to leave." good luck!

Answer 7

Your child is your number one priority, you are not in the wrong. Even if your daughter had broken a glass ( and I mean come on, we're talking about a glass) your mother has no right to treat a child like that. She is older and is supposed to be wiser but if she cannot act it then you are better off with your child away from her. She does not sound like a happy person ( your mom) and you know what they say, "misery loves company". Now I am kinda feeling sorry for your father.

Answer 8

I think that you leaving wa right not just for you but for your child too. To allow your mother to push her around then that is wrong i think that you leaving was a good thing it would have been better if you hadnt yelled but maybe after a few weeks you can talk to your mom and not move back in but just repair the bridges.

Answer 9

Pushing a child around is unacceptable. Maybe that was an inappropriate way of lashing out at your daughter out of frustration of not having her house to herself. I don't know what was said during the argument between the two of you. Give it some time and try to sit down and talk.

Answer 10

Sounds like you made a good move to me. You are a mother, always go with your instincts when it comes to your child. A two year old shouldn't be subjected to this immature behavior by an adult, especially a grandma. Your mom sounds weird. She should apologize not only to you but to your daughter as well.