There is a man who has liked me for 6 years. His family is all behind it, and supports the relationship. I am 13 years older than him (yes, he is legal.) He has some learning disabilities, but we connect very well and there is a total bond and chemistry, as well. I am the one who has an issue with the age. I feel like I should wait a couple of years and make sure he isn't missing out on any relationships with someone his own age. Has anyone been in this situation before? He is an awesome person, a pure, old soul, and I care for him, very much. I could fall in love with him easily but hold myself back. Thanks for answering.
2006-09-17 17:47:49 · 17 answers · asked by Janeybaby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After I left college to work at my current business I met a woman. I was barely 22, she was just beautiful. I wasn't sure of her age, but we just connected on so many levels - every level. She was atleast 12 years older then I was, she was 34. Georgeous inside and out is the only way to describe her - she was just great. I was shyed away by the age gap - and now that I'm a little older and she is getting engaged to another man do I realize the error in my j, udgement.
It's not about the age, it's the experience, the feeling the emotion you get from the person.
I regret leaving her for another woman more my age, who ended up being exactly not what I wanted.
Do what's in your heart, because Lord knows I know what it is like to be with somebody but have another in your heart every single day you wake up.
If he's as awesome as you think, then you would be crazy not to take him!
Good Luck!
-A
2006-09-17 17:54:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age gap is a bit too much. Even if nothing happens in the next few months and you both get together, it is bound to happen after a couple of years. He will surely want to be with girls his own age. It will be heart-breaking then to see him go out with a pretty young thing. Take care of yourself and your heart right now and let him go.
2006-09-18 00:50:54 · answer #2 · answered by mk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was 19 i had this 38 yr old lady for the best 3 days of my life granted it was only sex but it made no difference so when you add what you have ,,no don't hold back chemistry is everything if he makes you happy and you make him happy why not then live and be happy plus the family backs this so you have support too this is really cool I say run with it
2006-09-18 00:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by freeby1011 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a man who married a younger woman with disabilities. Her family arranged it and gave him monetary compensation for it. They had two sons. One born with similar or worse disabilities and the other normal or healthy mentally. The latter son was struck by a car that caused him brain damage unfortunately.
Now this man lovingly, patiently cares for three disabled people. I think he's an angel.
2006-09-18 01:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let your self love him and it sounds like you already do! = )
What is the point in holding back sometimes good things are only there for a while take advantage of them and he is not the one thinking that he should wait and see what else is out there. So why are you? Get with him have fun enjoy life together!
Good Luck!
2006-09-18 00:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Sunshine ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is not right with this picture. Not only are you 13 years older but he also has a learning disability. That make him even younger mentally. You are robbing the cradle for some reason and it sounds unhealthy. You need to talk to a therapist about it.
2006-09-18 00:50:41 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i say go for it i am in a relationship with a man that is twelve years older than me and yes i am legal too!! when we first got together i wasnt sure if i wanted to pursue it because the age difference was so huge and i also had a child and i didnt want her getting hurt but i went for it and two more children later we are still going strong and happier than ever so i say if you like him go for it
2006-09-18 00:56:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him and have the bond and chemistry, go for it! Don't hold yourself back and wait to see if he meets anyone his age. If you feel like you can see yourself married to this person, and his family's ok with it, go ahead!!! Don't miss out on a great person!!
2006-09-18 00:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by harley_baby2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you are only 13yrs old why the hell are you even considering a realationship,beyond friendship,?
i was 17 yrs old when i met my husband,but before that i was nerver really interested in boys because i was a tom-boy,but when i met my husband he was i believe 10 yrs older then myself
i married him when i was 21 and we had two wonderful kids and
then about 7-8 yrs later i woke up one day to find a stranger in
my bed,meanning we had grown so far apart that we ended up
spliting up ,so you see your question,leaves you with a lot of
generalizations for answers,so go with in your self and do a lot of
soul searching,only listen with your heart and not your brain.
2006-09-18 01:19:24 · answer #9 · answered by danette m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you honestly think that you have a connection with him, then put your reservations aside and do what feels right. Life's too short to spend it worrying over the little things. Just go out there, and live the most fulfilling life you possibly can.
2006-09-18 00:52:44 · answer #10 · answered by outlandsishlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋