the story is that My boyfriend of 6 years is going away for 10 days with some male friends ( all single not married) I want to be fair and not give hima ahard time since we are going to vegas ina afew weeks for 5 days but at the same time i don't think is fair that he's taking trips with guys for so long ( every year he has to go away with friends once or twice a year) I don't see what's the need for that .I need your advice in how I have to handle this situation by the way his friends are all players and over 35..so I'm ina atough situation I don't want to be selfish with him but a lot of people tell me that is not right that a boyfriend go away for so many days with the guys and every year... what can I do???
2006-09-17 17:09:29 · 13 answers · asked by CAJA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The old saying goes "Birds of a feather flock together". My boyfriend did the same thing, with all of his single friends, and his friends were all players, I found out that my boyfriend was too.
2006-09-17 17:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by Kathy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay- U may not like the truth. It's gonna hurt.
Its been 6 years. The dye is cast. You have put up with it for this long and you can't change the rules this late in the game. It is too late for that.
I agree, this is NOT a good situation. You are aware that he is cheating on you right? Men don't go to Vegas to hangout and play bingo. NO matter what he says, they are "doing" things that are not acceptable for a healthy loving relationship.
SO you accept this situation as it IS and don't deny that "real situation of these get togethers with the boys club" and love him enough to accept this a part of your life or the best choice is simply move on. That is the only truth. YOU know it as well.
Honestly sister, NO man is worth that humiliation to me. A player is a player. Its not a "hard time" to get the truth from the man ( who is supposed to love and respect you). Who knows what kinda skank he screwed or even shared with the boys as a party favor in Vegas. Its about your life now! What did he bring home? I'm not talking t-shirts~ here.
Since he doesn't take you with him and share the great time with the one he loves....reality check- he doesn't love you, he is using you. SO if he want't to gamble with his relationship "why not" he has won so many hands before. he doesn't see it as a gamble because your not even in the game. Got it?
2006-09-17 17:24:10 · answer #2 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand it might annoy you. But you've been together 6 years, so hopefully that means he's committed to you so you have nothing to worry about. Why not play the same game and plan a trip with the girls for 10 days to go shopping, get manicures, sit on a Caribbean island drinking cocktails etc. You should just enjoy the fact that you get to get rid of him for 10 days every year and get the peace and quiet to do whatever you like during that time! Good luck.
2006-09-17 17:17:27 · answer #3 · answered by Aussie Chick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I'm against it. It isn't a matter of trust that makes me say that. It is more the fact that she is too young to be going off with her boyfriend. I know that you can't be there all the time, you can't protect them totally, but still in my opinion she is even too young to be dating. No, I have no daughters of my own, I have two sons, and neither of them would have been allowed to bring a girl on vacation until they were 18. Part of you that wants to say yes, is the part that knows that she will be resentful of the decision. Little by little, inch by inch, you are losing the parental control you still need to exercise before it is too late. Remember, she is young, she is hormonal, yet she is a child that you need to protect and strengthen.
2016-03-27 06:40:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is totally fair that he would want to spend time with his friends...you must be either very spoiled, self centered or very insecure in order to not want him to go. If her were my boyfriend I'd give him a kiss and my photo tell him to have a great time and bring back lots of souvenirs and photos of the trip and that I couldn't wait to hear all about it. Sounds to me as if you have a bit more growing up to do before you actually have an involved relationship. You're too young for it right now.
2006-09-17 17:16:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's 10 days. if you've sent 6 years together then you can last 10 days. If this is a trust issue, I don't know why, he's been with you for 6 years, why would he cheat now?
2006-09-17 17:14:03 · answer #6 · answered by Tim H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go away on vacation with some of your friends every year. It's not good for the longevity of the relationship if the two of you never spend time apart.
2006-09-17 17:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by medellia1984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with it at all. why don't you get a bunch of your girlfriends and go away and do something. your talking 10 days out the year its not like he doing things with them and ignoring you
2006-09-17 17:17:44 · answer #8 · answered by melthule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it a tough one. it really all comes down to love and trust.i would let him go . you will only be known as a ****** by his mates if you don't.if he loves you , he wont stray.you can lead a horse to water ,but cant make it drink.i know its hard, but it you he comes home to and been with for 6 years (long time these days) use this time to visit gf , pamper yourself. i am sure it Will be OK
2006-09-17 17:14:45 · answer #9 · answered by roses642001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to be fair then do so but in time truth will be told if he is being fair if you really love him give him space if he loves you you won't have any worries
2006-09-17 17:13:30 · answer #10 · answered by computer_girl27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋