My daughter says she wants to pee, but she doesn't want to?

Question

My 21 mos old daughter has been wearing diapers all the time, but recently, I took off her diapers and didn't let her wear any. she's aware that she's going to pass urine and knows how to say if she wants to pee, but when I brought her potty, she doesn't want to sit. I brought her to the bathroom, she never did. she keeps saying she wants to pee but she doesn't want to do that. she's like holding on to it. when she’s wearing a diaper, she just passes her urine. now, she knows how to say that she wants to pee even wearing a diaper. she just says that! But without a diaper she says but she doesn’t want to do that. what should I do?

I know my daughter, she's just scared to pee in the bathroom or potty as she was always unwilling to. she feels insecure withput diapers on cos she used to wear dia[ers all the time!

I know my daughter, she's just scared to pee in the bathroom or potty as she was always unwilling to. she feels insecure WITHOUT diapers on cos she used to wear diapers all the time!
she is only 21 mos old!

Answer 1

put a pull up on her. when she has to go potty take her to the potty leave the pull up on put her put her on the toilet and she can still use the potty but still have the comfort of the diaper. she will learn to go with out the diaper soon enough.

Answer 2

Give her a break for a few weeks - 21 mos is early to start potty training. After a few weeks of only diapers, see if she will start sitting on the potty. You may also want to try a different kind of potty. My daughter (2 1/2) didn't like the potty chair, and once we got her a potty seat to go on the "big girl's potty" she actually used it. We are just starting to see progress with her going on the potty regularly and letting us know...I think if you ease off on the pressure of potting training, she will come around. You may also want to try training pants (Huggies has one where it gives a cool sensation when the diaper is wet - the theory being that the child won't want to sit in a cold, wet diaper). Good luck!

Answer 3

I bought my daughters regular underwear and would take her every hour when she had an accident I would tell her
Oh no pee pee in the undies peepee in the potty and sit her on the potty

do not yell at her or it will take longer and give her a sticker everytime she does but do not give the stickers just because or else it is not a potty prize ...

I have two and it worked for both

by the way get a roll of paper towels ready to get and clorex wipes for germs it will take a bit but well worth it ..... oh and don't put diapers on execpt for at night or it will confuse

Answer 4

I she knows enough to tell you she needs to go potty then she is old enough to be potty trained.

I would leave the diaper off her all the time. She won't use the potty either because she is nervous or afraid of it and uses the diaper because it is something she is comfortable with and she knows that if she waits long enough that you will put it on her so she can pee.

If you don't put it on her it is going to force her to make a decision, either wet herself or use the potty. Just make sure you keep an eye on her so she isn't sitting on the furniture or something in case she pees herself instead of using the potty.

Good luck.

Answer 5

First of all I would like to slap "Precious" for telling you to spank her. If this was a joke, it's not funny and if she is serious, I hope she never has kids.
Relax, Mom, at 21 months she is still very young and may just not be ready yet. Does she stay dry during naps and at night? Don't try to have her use the toilet...that is scary for a baby. Encourage her to use her potty. I used bribery when my girls were little. I would tell them a story or play with their dolls with them while they sat on the potty. Never scold. I also bribed my youngest daughter with pretty pink "bunny soft" panties. She was two and I told her she could wear her "bunny softs" if she didn't pee in them. It worked. Of course, when your daughter does pee in the potty, you have to make a very big deal about it. Tell everyone (you know, daddy, grandma, grandpa, aunts, uncles, whomever) so she can gets lots of praise.

Answer 6

Most children go through the Pee-Pee stage my daughter does the same thing. But ask your doctor if you have any real concerns. It's normal. It's a phase. She may have the urge but it goes away when you sit her on the potty. In due time she will be out of those diapers.

Answer 7

Katy gave you the best answer; most of the others are just plain ignorant. Some are psychos who want to spread their depravity.

Your daughter is going through a normal stage. Don't give ANY creedence to any of the 21st century crap that these psudo-docs are spewing. You'll drive yourself nuts and cause your daughter some psycological damage.

She's just practicing and getting to the point where she feels comfortable doing the act. She knows what she has to do; mostly knows how to do it, but just like diving off a diving board for the first time, she's making her approach, doing a couple of bounces then going back to the dry end of the board. She'll do it when she's ready, and the idea of letting her wear a pull up is a great one, because it takes pressure off her and allows her to complete the act when she's good and ready.

Kids know themselves when they're ready to do things, and just need your OK to go ahead and prepare themselves to do it...themselves. You'll find that this will apply to most areas of their learning. When they are ready, they will do it.

Once again, most of these people are full of s'hit, so don't listen to them. Your daughter is progressing right on schedule, right on time, in her own way. Be proud and happy, and just sit back and facilitate.

Answer 8

Just keep taking her to the toilet, she will become more comfortable with the procedure. Perhaps she is intimidated by the whole bathroom process. My first child was 17 months before she was potty trained and my second was 2 in a half closer to 3 years old. Don't rush it but be consistent.

Answer 9

What kind of a potty are you using? Maybe, the TOILET is too overwhelming for her. Make up a song & dance on the way to the potty. When you finally get there maybe turn on the faucet, listening to water running helps release the urine. It could just be nerves.

Answer 10

My son went through the same thing when we were potty training him. I think it is just that when they get to the potty they get nervous and have performance anxiety. Just keep working with her. She may "want" to be ready right now, but there's a possibility that she's really not. Good luck, and just make sure to always be patient, positive and supportive.