Does that seem odd? I don't want to worry about her, I want her to be self-sufficient and just, you know, enjoy conversing about the origins of the universe & s***. Is that too much to ask?
I was talking to a friend about a girl I hit it off with at a party, and when I finally got her number (like a week later [long story]), I told him I wanted to take her out to coffee. He said she'd think I was boring. Okay so maybe I am! He suggested bowling! F*** bowling, I want to be boring! So I haven't called her. He knows her and says she'll be bored.
Are women attracted to intelligence? Instinct tells me "No." So does personal history. And observation.
2006-09-17 17:05:59 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, good answers so far. I should've asked y'all this while I was still with my baby's mother.
2006-09-17 17:14:10 · update #1
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2006-09-17 17:10:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well me dearie..you don't sound lazy..you sound MALE...lol
What are we attracted to?...not JUST intelligence (though for me that is a big part of it)...we all are looking for a package deal..(just all looking for different combo packages according to our tastes)...and..YOU..just look at your own wish list up dere in your own question...lol.
For heavens sake...ask the girl out...where is your self confidence?..you gonna trust a friend to tell you 'she'll think you're boring?' I wouldn't want to go bowling either, so I'm down with you on that score..but...take the lady out for coffee as you had initially wanted to do...AND where I can understand your wanting her to be self-sufficient (as I would want the same from a man)...but 'not worry about her'?...geezz dude..you can't have meant that...nahhh you didn't.
When you find the right girl...you'll probably find out she wasn't exactly what you thought you needed...but she'll have what you need (and somewhere in there dude)..you'll have what she needs too.
Go for coffee...YOU pay the tab...good luck.
2006-09-17 17:30:11 · answer #2 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course we're attracted to intelligence. But we don't want laziness where we're just treated like a mate. Even self sufficient independent chicks need some effort put in from a man or else we'll get bored and move on to the next guy.
2006-09-17 17:11:28 · answer #3 · answered by Aussie Chick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being silly to let your friend discourage you from doing something. If you really hit it off with this girl at the part then it would have been a great idea to ask her out to get coffee it would have given you guys a chance to get to know each other more .. You are not even giving this girl the chance. I know if I hit it off with a guy I would not think it boring if he asked me to go bowling its sounds like fun to me ... but stop listing to your friend and just give her a chance
2006-09-17 17:12:56 · answer #4 · answered by melthule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My gut tells me that your friend wanted the girl and tried to misdirect you. Did he date or try to date her??
What is a marriage but ring on a best friend?
Personally, I like funny, smart, calm (aka boring), like at least half of the things I like and a tolerance for the other half.
If instinct is good for one thing, then try for girls as well. Shelve your friend for a while and see what happen w/o his input. Worse thing that happens is he tells you "I told you so".
2006-09-17 17:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by Valeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have a good plan. you want to be friends first and get to know each other. i hope ur friend isn't c@blocking cuz that not cool. Coffee sounds good so does bowling whats the big deal where u go?if she's interested it doesn't matter. don't listen to ur friend just ask her out anyway.
2006-09-17 17:12:45 · answer #6 · answered by pixiegurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that most women want to be treated as equals and certainly are attracted to intelligence.Maybe your friend says she'll be bored cause hes attracted to her himself. Give her a call.
2006-09-17 17:11:06 · answer #7 · answered by momof3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well like me you hate commitment, i do like men , i have strong feelings for them but right now i dont want to take it to another level
personally i think its just fine, if you dont feel like getting too personal with others, if you feel youre not ready for that you dont need to force yourself to change for any woman
let them adjust to your mood
its only right that women should not totally depend on you
one day youll feel like being romantic but now is not the time dont pressure yourself, its just fine
nevermind that girl, if she cant even talk to you about the origins of the universe then she just want to be intimate physically,if you really could be with somebody its with the person whom you can share your thoughts with
like for me if someone is courting me, but could not be with me just to look at the stars and wonder at its beauty then i dont even want to care for that man, if he cant understand my weirdness then its his loss
and so are you, if that girl cant even talk to you intellectually she will eventually just bore you or irritate you to death
their are women attracted to intelligence like me, if a guy cant even talk about the complexities of daily living or dont even want reading books that would be a complete turn off
i know some women love models(men models)but after some time they also realize looks will fade away what we need is someone whom we can share our thoughts and ideas with
forget that girl, she is dumb you know, their are far more better girls, dont push yourself to become someone youre not
2006-09-17 17:16:13 · answer #8 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your just afraid of commitment.
2006-09-17 17:09:06 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you think your perfect! i find that boring and so will she!!!!
2006-09-17 17:13:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋