Theres couples everywhere.Everyone seem so happy. even the ugly ones, even the enoying ones even the stupid ones... i mean everyone is in a relationship. i believe theres always somebody for everybody... but i've been single for a longtime and i personally don't think i'm the ugly one or the enoying one or the stupid one... But just really have bad luck with guys. Why....? it seems that i'm always the SINGLE one. what am I doing wrong?
2006-09-17 16:51:59 · 34 answers · asked by gougga 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You dont have a hard time finding good guys- they just seem to be having a hard time finding you.
Dating is a hit or miss thing. You cant always see the true colors until you spend lots of time with someone. The thing though is that if you wait- the person for you will come and find you- and usually when you least expect it.
What you should do is sit down and write up what you want in a partner. When you meet a person, dont accept anything less than what is on your list. Yes- we all know that no one is perfect, but if you settle for less than you are worth, you will never get as much as you deserve. I say place that somewhere that is safe and secure, and when you meet someone, take that list out. I keep mine in my bible. My fiance now- well he matches everything on my list- and yes- I had to kiss quite a few frogs until i found my prince. So can you!
2006-09-17 16:59:57 · answer #1 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to assert yourself more and go after what you want. Think also about what messages you are sending out non verbally.......with body language? Are you receptive to flirtations? Do you smile, make eye contact and make conversation? Do your flirting skills need some work? Play up your best assets in the way of wardrobe, hair, makeup, personality, knowledge. Do you get out socially? You won't find the guys knocking on your front door. You must go where they are at...... Perhaps that means a class, part time job where men shop.......put yourself in a target rich environment. Have you tried on line dating sites? Dr Phil and John Gray both have excellent books regarding relationships...you could probably find them at the local library. Just some ideas to ponder...........
2006-09-17 17:07:53 · answer #2 · answered by Janet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there..........
Every body has a soulmate, you must evaluate your self truthfully & honestly.... Be realistic & have fair & honest expectations, maybe , No . not maybe but surely he will come along and be attracted to a person that reflect honesty ect............. Do not play " hard to get " or easy , just be natural and hang around smart people , have smart friends and frequent smart places. Make sure that you know the person before you go all the way. Guy do not like easy girls , they like them but never for very long , Try to be Friends , try to find a friend and you'll never be disappointed . If the man is for you your relation will evoluate to something stronger. Remember love with friendship is beautifull and that love alone never stay for ever...
Good luck.......
2006-09-17 17:07:14 · answer #3 · answered by J/P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, don't be bitter. Your time will come soon. Hell, just today on the subway, I saw this couple who were sleeping on each other. They looked so good together that it almost made me want to cry because I don't have anyone like that.
There has to be something else going on for you in your life. Having a guy isn't the most important thing in the world. It if was then I'd be fine and dandy but I'm not.
2006-09-17 16:53:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL The question of the century. It will happen when you take your thoughts away from it and stop looking at the other couples etc. There are lots and lots of worthwhile single people ISO. They will come the moment you think you aren't interested. Good luck
2006-09-17 16:56:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was tired of going to wedding after wedding alone! I always fell for guys who didn't fall for me, so I quit looking so hard, and made plans to get a job where I could travel. It was then that a friend from college contacted me and we were married two years later.... Don't look so hard, be yourself, you won't find anyone until you are happy with you as you are.
2006-09-17 17:03:48 · answer #6 · answered by MamaSunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Everyone seem so happy. even the ugly ones, even the enoying ones even the stupid ones..."
HAHAHA! That's so true. You're not doing anything wrong. You just haven't met me yet. Email me.
2006-09-17 16:55:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
quit looking and someone will come along. i promise. in the meantime, make it a priortiy to enjoy each day to the fullest. be happy with yourself, laugh and smile. that attracts. and about the other couples, unless you're living in some parallel universe, they're not all that happy. it just seems that way. everytime i get lonely, i think about how glad i am to not to have to worry about someone else and their needs.
2006-09-17 16:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by jules 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God does the putting together, wait upon the Will. this way you won't be crying. for all the couples you see with their masks on, most of them. if you can be the fly on their wall, you might not ever wish upon a star for a lover at all. wait, you know the saying about how good things come to those who wait. it may be tomorrow, it may be next year, what ya gonna do. please don't jump off a bridge, you may want to after you're involved. you worry me, either way, do you do that to most people, you're a funny one, good catch, just wait. God will take care of you, i promise...
2006-09-17 17:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by lee f 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are looking in the wrong place or you are not taking responsibility for your own dating situation. You need to look for someone who have similar interests. If you like coffee, go to a coffee shop. Also take control, show a guy you are interested, maybe be the one who goes up to him. If you sit on hte side lines dont expect action.
2006-09-17 16:54:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋