Maybe I'm to damn nice. Story of my life with women is this..We meet, have a great time, we laugh, have fun etc..but everytime I think a romantic relationship is starting and I want to get more serious (like officially become bf and gf) , the answer usually is something like this "Oh, your a great friend but..(the typical followups) I don't want that to change..things to change ..but your your just a friend...I don't think your bf material...I don't think of you in that way etc, etc..." To rub salt in the wound, most of them have said that I'm one of the (if not the best) guy they've ever met. That makes no damn sense!? How in the hell do I stop from getting pigeoned holed in the "Just a Friend" hole during the getting to know you stage? I've been told to try the "bad boy" image but that just is not me.
2006-09-17 16:50:34 · 10 answers · asked by microwaved-brain 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, by the way, it happend again this week! the answer, "You're a great friend and I don't want to ruin our friendship, you'll find someone one day, you're a great guy...blah, blah, blah" I'm starting to think I need to stop being so nice!
2006-09-17 16:51:35 · update #1
I hope you are not giving them fashion tips lol! Nah seriously, men and women are totally different species if you know what I mean. This may sound absurd but somehow it works... Don't relate too much to the women e.g. fashion, latest trends. That is the first mistake. Once you start relating, you are considered a friend and that's the end of it. Talk about sports cars, football or something manly. This is a rushed answer but I hope I made some sense. Good luck
2006-09-17 17:00:20 · answer #1 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't need to stop being so nice. When that right person comes around believe me you will want to have a friendship first, it's a solid foundation to a relationship. You just keep being you, you sound like your a great guy and she will come. But please don't become the typical stereo type man that's "bad boy", it won't land you a lasting relationship. Good luck and keep your head up! She's out there.
2006-09-17 16:55:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the wisest man in the world king Solomon once said never forget or give up on kindness. forget about not being nice to her. keep trying get in her way, send her some nice things flowers treat her like a woman listen to her always let her know she is beautiful captivating worth pursuing. believe me she wanted this since she was a little girl. give it time.
and if she is the girl i want then just forget about everything i said i was just kidding woman want just the opposite
2006-09-17 17:04:15 · answer #3 · answered by The Lonely Fatman 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont try to date your friends. Thats why they are called friends. Try to date someone new, that you dont really know. That way you will have lots of stuff to talk about and lots of new stuff to learn. If you would date your friend it would be kinda boring, because you already know alot about her, and wouldnt have much to talk about. The the relationship would be boring, and it would fall apart anyways. Go with the first answer....
2006-09-17 16:54:52 · answer #4 · answered by TayNuz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you if you don't try to do the bad boy stuff. I like guys who are nice and gentleman. Just be sweet and be yourself. Try to know what the girl your eyeing likes, for her to know that your really interested in her.
2006-09-17 17:02:03 · answer #5 · answered by Halcyon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh don't stop being U - naturally (so U say) Ur just a straight up nice guy...the right one will come...eventually =)
2006-09-17 16:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
QUIT trying to find "the one". It never fails...when you're looking for someone, you won't find them. If you quit looking...she will find you. Trust me....been there, done that. It sucks but I'm a firm believer. Good luck...you will find her. ;~)
2006-09-17 16:56:32 · answer #7 · answered by tina12879 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get an ugly woman they can appreciate a man like you.
2006-09-17 16:54:17 · answer #8 · answered by mizsinister 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Growing some testes might help.
2006-09-17 16:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
your right u need to add a little conflict but not much ...
2006-09-17 16:52:39 · answer #10 · answered by aaron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋