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I have this friend who likes me romantically. I've made it clear that I have a boyfriend of almost 2 years now, whom I love very deeply, and that I only like this friend as a friend and nothing more. My friend says he accepts and understands that, but every once in a while he'll still tell me that he's "in love" with me. (And I always tell him it makes me uncomfortable, bc I don't feel the same way about him.)

Should I just stop hanging out with him? I feel that he is still hoping and still pursuing, so it makes me uncomfortable and makes me worry that I am leading him on, even though I'm not trying to lead him on.

2006-09-17 16:43:31 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

17 answers

in my opinion, you should stop hanging out with him. As sad as that is, you should never hang out with anyone who makes you feel uncomfortable and puts you in this kind of position. you have made it plain and clear to him that you dont reciprocate his feelings and he is having a problem moving on. Maybe if you distance yourself from him, at least for a little while, he will have more time to focus on other things and moving on.
if he asks why you wont hang out with him anymore, explain to him that he makes you feel uncomfortable and until he can move on, it is best you two go your own seperate ways

2006-09-17 16:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by mandyd725 2 · 0 0

If he's looking at you romantically, he's looking at you sexually. If he's your friend and doesnt look at you romantically, he's still thinking sexually at some point or another. That's a guy and you just cant get away from that fact.
You may be able to keep em backed off from approaching, but let the guy go invest his romantic feelings into a gal who's available. He's not going to do that as long as you remain friends.
Gay guy friend or hetero girl friend is your option.

2006-09-17 23:57:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You may haft to give him an ultimatum. Tell him that you don't think of him as a boyfriend. That you are in love with the person who is your boyfriend. Tell him that he makes you feel uncomfortable and that if it doesn't stop, that you can't hang out with him.

2006-09-17 23:49:33 · answer #3 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0 0

There is nothing wrong. However there is a potential that you both might get hurt since the feeling isn't mutual. See if he is worth keeping as a friend and then go from there. Friends aren't easy to find these days

2006-09-17 23:49:25 · answer #4 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 1 0

Stop being friends with him. There is no such thing as a guy and girl being friends. Especially when he has made his feelings clear that he likes you, and regardless of what he says he will always feel that way.

2006-09-17 23:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by and1baller4life0 1 · 0 0

Well, I think you should put your foot down one more time and explain everything that you said once again. Tell him that you'll have to cut him off if he continues to behave the same way. You shouldn't have to feel uncomfortable.

2006-09-17 23:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by jolo4ever 4 · 0 0

Maybe you should stop hanging out with him. You know by being with him you are giving him false hope. Let him go. Are you sure you're not keeping him around for ego's sake? Don't do that.

2006-09-17 23:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

If it makes you feel uncomfortable, get out. I wish Billie would have done that. Girls seem to manage this friend & boyfriend thing well. Guys get confused.

2006-09-17 23:48:22 · answer #8 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 0 0

Yes cause you're leading him on without knowing it. You hanging with him gives him hope that you'll come around. Hook him up with one of your cute girlfriends if you like him that much as a friend, unless you're selfish and want all of his attention to yourself.

2006-09-17 23:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by scorpion187us 4 · 0 0

not wrong, be a real friend and help him move on, get him a blind date with a cute girl,a friend of yours, It will take his mind off you and put him on a path to a new love,. well if you really want to help your friend. but maybe talk is cheap. and you fear the lost of someone who loves you.you really need to think about this more. and deeper. a real friend , they are hard to find

2006-09-18 00:01:43 · answer #10 · answered by fredadover 2 · 1 0

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