Im in a weird situation, and I dont know how to ask my girlfriends best friend to stop hanging out with her at our place while im at work...
he just survived cancer 2 years ago and his parents died when he was young.
When im at work he comes over and hangs out with my girlfriend smoking pot and watching dirty movies. The guy wears jogging pants all day and walks around my place with a *****.
I confronted him, he called me a sellout, insensitive jerk and a not a man because I wont fight him and because I work as a janitor, so im not a real man... And my girlfriend doesnt believe me when I tell her how I feel. She just defends her friend.
Should I just beat him up or set up or pay someone to rough him up?
2006-09-17 16:33:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You will not benefit in the long run by beating him up or having it done. You might think about a new girlfriend.
2006-09-17 16:37:15 · answer #1 · answered by Computer Guy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm on your side buddy. However, don't get into a fight with him but instead express how you feel about the situation with your girl. She should know better, when drugs are involved, you gotta expect something to happen. It's not your fault that his parents died or that he got cancer. For f*ck's sake, tell him to stop smoking or he'll be losing a lung real soon. There is nothing wrong with having an honest job. Get your opinion out in the open or just move on. It ain't work your time
2006-09-17 16:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion, have a SERIOUS talk with her about this. Tell her exactly how you feel. She should respect that, that will let you know how much she actually cares for you. Because if she doesn't listen to you know and hear you out on how you feel, think of the future? How would she react/respond to other things? Work it out now because later when it gets deeper it WILL get harder. So, let her know and if she doesn't give a crap, sorry man, but she isn't worth it because if she doesn't care about your feelings know, just think of what can happen in the future. Hope it helps. BEST of LUCK!
2006-09-17 16:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by Dispirited 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her, not him. This is a decision that she needs to make. I have friends but they are not over at my house all day and they do not get in the way of my relationship with my man. SHE needs to decide how important this relationship is to her YOUR relationship not theirs and if she chooses you then she needs to stop her other friend coming over so much. He is probably saying bad **** about you to her. Good luck. Deal directly with your girlfriend and not him and don't bother beating him up to prove your manhood, that's just what HE wants you to do!!!
2006-09-17 16:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by LondonLou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick his ***. That little ***** is hiding behind her skirt. He knows damn well what he's up to. You know as well as I do that guys don't hang out with girls unless they want to have sex with him. And I understand the fear that if you do something to him that she leave you and be with him for support. It depends on how tough you really are. Mostly likely she does care about him as a friend so this is how you have to approach it. Let her that hang out with is going to get his *** kicked. Make her feel that it will be her fault if you have to kick his ***. She will get mad at first and if she does start a fight kick his *** because he has it coming. She won't want to to do it again and stop hanging out with him. If you have to kick his *** two or three times.She'll see you mean it. I hate those spineless bitches that hide behind skirts. Anyway that's what my boyfriend did and it worked
Good Luck
2006-09-17 16:43:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just tell him that its not cool to be with your girlfriend when your not there, and especially watching dirty videos. And tell your girlfriend, that you trust her, but that you just dont trust her friend. If she gives you trouble with it, then say its me or him, because you cant deal with always worrying and wondering what they are doing. Then she is probably going to say we arent doing nothing. If she says that then just say if you arent doing anything then I want to be there when hes there. Hope this helps!!!!
2006-09-17 16:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by TayNuz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah he doesnt sound like a good guy....but u know what? ur battling her best friend and most girls believe friends come before boyfriends...so ur prolly gonna lose. so sry dude but u have to accept that she wants him as a part of her life and if u dont accept that ur prolly gonna lose her. sry dude.
2006-09-17 16:41:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him 2 get da *** an get his own woman they dont come cheap beat yourself up and tell your girlfriend he beat you up an then you can have some sympthy an hes the bad guy.
2006-09-19 23:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by wetnslippy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should hire a private investigator to follow them so you can find out exactly what they're up to.
2006-09-20 06:04:31 · answer #9 · answered by n8boi02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh neither............if your gf doesn't believe you then why be with her??? the guy seems like an a** and not worth your time............tell the gf that you really have a problem with it and itf she really cared she wouldn't let this stuff happen if it makes you that uncomfortable.
2006-09-17 16:37:42 · answer #10 · answered by sncannon86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋