All right, this is really pretty funny, but I'm actually not making this up and I would like to have some imput on it.
I have been dating my girlfriend for a month now and her father is making us break up because I did some inappropriate things with her but more because he thinks we had sex.
To clear some things up, she is a virgin and yes, I have had sex before. But that was when I was young and immature. I am a better person now and I would not hurt her.
I fully intend on having a "talk" with her father over this, cause I'll be damned if I lose her over something stupid like this. I only want to tell him that I have not slept with his daughter and that I am insulted that he would think that, and that I don't intend on breaking up with her cause I really do love her.
Don't get me wrong, I understand why her father is doing this. He worries about his daughter. I respect him for that, but I do not intend on giving up my girl.
Please ask if you want more info and I'll post it.
2006-09-17 16:25:26 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, age? I am 16 and she is 15.
Please don't ask me what I have been doing sleeping around, that has nothing to do with this question.
2006-09-17 16:31:53 · update #1
to sylvia548: you had better not be telling me that I should find someone who has parents that don't mind their daughter sleeping around, cause if thats the case I would shoot you myself. You say you have experience but if that were the case you would be singing a different song. You could not begin to immagine how many people I've hurt, and I will not mess up like that again. And yes, I would shoot you.
2006-09-17 16:38:40 · update #2
to Cayce A: and I'm guessing you are about 15, cause you don't show a lot of maturity. Want some advise? How bout instead of "don't get caught" how bout "DON'T DO STUPID STUFF!!!"
2006-09-17 16:41:55 · update #3
Like you said, talk to the dad. Sure the whole "sex talk" is gonna be awkward but why is he butting into your relationship. Sometimes daddies need to be assured thier baby girl is with the right guy and not some loser. you seem very respectful.
2006-09-17 16:27:53 · answer #1 · answered by Poetic Jezebel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i get the picture and i gotta say, you're a rare man. not many young men would even have the thought of talking directly to the father even if they were head over heels in love with the girl. she's a lucky woman and i hope she realizes it. men who actually communicate their feelings are a rare breed and truly a value in society. yes, talk to the dad and he will respect you for it. being a grandma i know this for a fact. men appreciate that the male in question seeking the affections of their daughter is open and above-board and will have it in their minds that this male is truly being a man about things and showing responsibility and intelligence, as well as the ability to remain logical in stressful times. go for it buddy. i wish you all the luck in the world, and tell that young lady she's a very lucky person to have met someone like you.
2006-09-17 23:30:36 · answer #2 · answered by vrandolph62 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will not get past the father. End of story. You will have to start sneaking out with her and then you two will feel guilty. Nlo matter how you profess to being a good guy, we all know where you are headed and so does her father. Find someone whose parents are not so strict. How do you know she is not using her father to break up with you? Remember, people are sneaky, Take it from one with loads of experience in dealing with people. Best of luck to you.
2006-09-17 23:32:25 · answer #3 · answered by glenda576 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok sweetie, I think you should talk to the dad. Make it very clear to him that you understand why he's doing it & that if you have a daughter one day, you would probably do the same thing. Also, let him know that you respect him & that you don't want to go against his wishes but that your intentions to date his daughter are heartfelt & true. Also make it EXTREAMLY clear that you are not interested in having sex with his daughter, that you respect her & yourself enough not to do that until marriage if it's God's will.
Good Luck to you
2006-09-17 23:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by Ash Anne 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would have a talk with the folks. tell him how much you care for her.now to adress the love thing.youve only been with her for a month. are you sure you LOVE her or are you infatuated with her? and maybe her father feels thing are moving to fast because youre already saying you love each other.Think about it. If you had a daughter that was dating someone for a month and they say they love eachother already. come on you guys hardly know eachother yet. i wouldnt tell her father that you love her just tell him you really enjoy being around her and look forward to getting to know her better. Good luck
2006-09-17 23:44:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that sitting him down and having a nice long talk is the first step to solving all this. He is going to have to change on his own terms, but if he can see where you are coming from than it is a plus and besides it's not like your a little child so you will be grown soon (well depending on what her age is...) but I hope it all works out
2006-09-17 23:31:10 · answer #6 · answered by CaramelCutiePie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not enough information involved.
Because it could be because of her culture that you don't add up? Some cultures don't believe too different races belong. I am not racist. Just personal experience. I am white and dated an asian was not allowed to meet family members. Some are not allowed to have sexual contact of any kind.
2006-09-17 23:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by leftykoalabear 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honey u are headed in the right direction. confront her father and sit down and have it out man to man but don't forget this is ur girlfriends father so keep this respectable for her sake. her father should respect u as a better person.
2006-09-17 23:31:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she really likes you she will find a way to see you..........I tried the same thing with my Daughter....and she found ways.... I excepted this about 4 months later...... They are still together for a year and a hafe........and no more problems.
2006-09-17 23:31:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell him to mind his business....how old are you btw...i mean if her dad still can tell her to don't go out with him, then sex shouldn't even be an issue...because you shouldn't be doing it...anyway....just tell him we're not having sex, were just going out, so either you trust her, or you push her away and she ends up doing something just to spite you....anyway....DON"T HAVE SEX TILL YOUR MATURE ENOUGH TO HANDLE THE CONSEQUENCES OF THAT ACTION..AKA A BABY!!
2006-09-17 23:27:47 · answer #10 · answered by Black 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋