My fiance recently attended a "romance party" with a bunch of her female friends, at which she purcahsed some "toys" to spice up our sex lives. She claims that it's primarily for when we're both in bed together, to ensure we both reach climax. Since we've been dating for over a year now, she wants to keep it fresh. At first, I was pretty cool with the whole idea, since I want her to be satisfied too.
However, once she actually brought it home, then I started to feel a little put off by it. I started to feel like she wasn't satisfied by me, and like I was being replaced with a piece of machinery. I guess it wouldn't be such a big deal if we had been married for years already, but we've only been "romantic" for about a year. No one I have dated in the past has ever needed to do this.
Overall, I guess my male ego has taken a bit of a hit. Am I being too sensitive?
2006-09-17 16:22:39 · 18 answers · asked by George C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, toys will never ever replace a real man!! I can almost promise you that her doing this doesn't have anything to you with you not performing up to par. She's being adventerous. Embrace it! Have fun with it. You might be pleasantly surprised. :)
The thought of toys can be very intimidating. Just relax a bit and don't take it personally. Be happy you are marrying a woman who wants to keep things fresh!! And, she's confident enough to say 'hey honey, I want to try this!'
2006-09-17 16:31:47 · answer #1 · answered by matty.. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is ego. I don't mean to be crude, but anything you wont do, someone else might.
Why not try something new?
If you guys are together long, there will be times when you will both not be satisfied, and that is normal. If you eat your favorite food every night for a week, prepared the same way, you will be less satisfied by it the next week and will want a change. Keep that in mind, and good luck. SHe loves you a lot if she's willing to be open about something she doesnt know how you will react to.
2006-09-17 16:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to truely know if he will be offended by bringing toys into the relationship is to discuss it with him. Communication is always the key to ahealthy relationship. Make sure to allow him to understand you are not trying to replace him, but it is something you are interested in trying out to spice up the wonderful sexual relationship you alrteady have. Being a toy party consultant I see this question alot and know from experience most men are more open to it than they seem. Just allow him to understand why you think it would be fun, variety in bed keeps you guessing it keeps you interested.
2016-03-27 06:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U shouldn't feel 2 threathen unless the sex toy she brings in is another guy. Other then that she just wants to make it fun and different to keep the fire burning with u and her, she doesn't want it to get boring. And if u mean too sensitive in Ur allergic to the toys then maybe u should say something about that =-)
2006-09-17 16:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, we all want our sex life to b spicy! some of us don't feel comfy but some really does. for some its just fun for some its to ensure to reach the climax. since u're not feelin' good at all n feelin' insecure 'bout the whole idea of bringin' sex toys in bedrooms, y don't u talk 2 her? tell her that u're not ready yet for these kinda fun. n find out what sort of girl friends she's got. u're just with her for an year, romantically. so it's obvious to get insecured, but u should let ur feelin' off ur chest n tell her that u don't feel good. may be she's just too curious 'bout those stuff but does't mean u're replaced by a machine.
2006-09-17 16:29:06 · answer #5 · answered by don_yourmate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that she wants to spice things up for u, too. Toys are FUN. U get to experiment with new things. Watch her once. Most men get totally aroused by just watching. If u decide that u just don't like them, then u need to tell her. Honestly, don't feel put off by it. Alot of women out there have toys. And if she wasn't happy with U, then she wouldn't be with U!!!! ENJOY!!
2006-09-17 16:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by tina12879 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO. Sex toys don't get used all the time...there just for a little extra spice every once in a while. Be glad that she's so comfortable with you that she's ok w/ bringing those into the bedroom!
2006-09-17 16:25:42 · answer #7 · answered by breaker_1020 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my fiance says "You'll get used to it." Coming from a woman, I can tell you that it is a great thing to have other means of operation in the bedroom. Just think of how many holes you can fill with you and a couple of toys. It is always great to experiment...p.s. my fiance and I have only been "romantic" as you put it for about 8 months...and we have toys.
2006-09-17 16:54:01 · answer #8 · answered by Natty137 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let me tell u this form experience no matter what a woman says nothing feels beter than a rela man u are not being replaced dude u have been together for a year and u think her devotion and love will go away from u because of a toy give a ***** a break
2006-09-17 16:28:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
kinda, what you have to understand is that its not just about you. its also about her curiosity. If she wasn't satisfied by you she would have left you or told you so...Its actually more interesting when you bring toys into the bed room it gives u a whole other feel to sex...so in my opinion your being sensitive but u should share your feelings with her so that she can reassure you herself.
hope this kinda helped you...
2006-09-17 16:30:16 · answer #10 · answered by supercutemomostar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋