i have a 15 yr old daughter...she has a bf 16...her dad wants me to put her on the pill...?

Question

any other moms struggling with this dilemma...she says she hasnt done anything yet....but im too immature to be a gramma...help? honest answers appreciated

Answer 1

Bite the bullet and get her the pill. Either she's sexually active or razor close to it with very heavy petting. She's not going to stop there.

You're too young to be a granny. Get her the pill and keep lines of communicatio open with her.

And don't let her see or hear you cry yourself to sleep over this.

Answer 2

I think that I would make an appointment with a GYN, and have the doctor reccomend the best pill for her. I don't know your daughter, of course, but I do know that the majority of teenage girls will lie to their parents when asked about sexual activity, and then the parents are shocked when something happens.

I went on the pill at 15 to regulate my periods and help with my endometriosis, and I got used to taking them, so that when I did choose to have sex at 17 I was already well-protected.

I know several girls who had children while we were still in high school, and I know for a fact that a few of them weren't on the pill only because the didn't want to let their moms know that they were going to have sex. And my baby sister is only in the 8th grade, but there have been two pregnancies in her school, one girl being only 13 and the other only 14.

The pill prevents pregnancy much better than condoms, or any of the other methods usually used by teens, but if you do take her to the GYN, I think you should talk to the Dr in advance (without your daughter knowing) and make sure that the GYN talks to her about also using condoms while on the pill, to protect against STD's.

I'm only 21, so I'm just barely out of my teens, but still old enough to realize what a risk it is to do things like sleep around, and I agree with nearly everyone else in that it's much better to be safe than sorry.

Answer 3

To Immature to be a gramma?

First, you need to quit thinking of yourself. Your daughter is what matters.

Second, think about what it was like when you were 15? Were your hormones raging? Would you have gone through the embarrassment of buying a pack of condoms from the local store (probably not if you were anything like me). A lack of alternatives might lead your daughter to unsafe sexual practices.

Third, is the pill really the best birth control method for someone her age? I grew up in a small town and I recall that the high school in the next town over had a bad herpes epidemic, because no one practiced safe sex. The pill might keep your daughter from getting pregnant, but it doesn't prevent disease.

Personally, I think you should sit down with your daughter and talk about sex. Let her know that there will be a time soon where she will be faced with a decision. She will want sex. The choice of what she does next will be completely up to her. Some people wait for marriage, some people do not. Just let her know that if she does have sex, it should be protected. Let her know that she can come to you to get protection if she doesn't feel comfortable getting it on her own. You could offer to giver her a box so she doesn't have to ask you.

Just my opinion. Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

The pill does not protect against sexually transmitted diseases, which unfortunately are becoming rampant again. If she is not old enough to be tested for STD's, have her boyfriend tested and get her own birth control then she is not ready for sex and that is where I would concentrate. Perhaps speak to her about condoms only being 73% effective in preventing STD's, and how the pill not being taken faithfully at the same time daily can result in a pregnancy. I would also be concerned with the high rise in breast cancer for women in their 20's and 30's. Some studies show it is a result of the pill. There is much more to think about here than a baby. I would focus on abstinence and have a frank discussion with your husband about a good approach you can go to her with together. Good luck to you and to your daughter.

Answer 5

prevention is cheaper and healthier than cure
If you are not ready to pay for an abortion or to help raise a child and if you do not want to see her life ruined, do offer her to put her on the pill. Talk to her about all the options, and go see a doctor with her. She does not need to get on the pill, but she needs to be informed.
Maybe she will decide to wait until she's older or until she's married, but this way, she will be able to make educated decisions.
In my opinion, she's better off waiting a little bit, but if she plans to be active, then she needs to use both pills and condoms. Better safe than sorry.

Answer 6

I was put on the pill at 16 and my sister wasnt. Lets just say she is 21 and a mother of 2. She is going to experiment with sex whether or not she is on the pill. Better safe then sorry.

Answer 7

Better to be safe than sorry that way when the time is right for her she is already protected against getting pregnant condoms left if a draw were she has access to with out everyone watching is a good idea as well that way if she is going to do anything she will be safe and responsible about it.don't go counting them all the time either or she wont use them.it gives here your trust and faith but also let her know that you may or may not approve of it its just her health and well being your looking after it will help you sleep better at night that's what I intend on doing with my kids and I have one of each

Answer 8

My mom put me on the pill at 15 even though I was still a virgin, and I turned out fine. I will do the same with my daughter. Like others said better safe than sorry!

Answer 9

I have to say I'm a little surprised that one of your concerns is your immaturity. I think the focus needs to be your daughter. If you choose to take her to a Doctor and have her start on the pill, you are condoning sexual activity. I'm not recommending burying your head in the sand, either. Have you tried a very frank discussion about morality and the benefits of waiting for sex?
Have you considered telling her that you don't approve of 15 year old children having sex and if she makes a decision to do so, she is taking on a big responsibility and an incredible risk?
Have you discussed STD's?
Please consider being a strong force in your child's life for doing the right thing.

Answer 10

i was a teen once, not too long ago, many things have changed now a day and it's always better to be safe than sorry. abortions or over the counter pills are not the answer...or they shouldn't be if they could be prevented, however, suggest condoms as well std's are way on the rise and everyone is at risk, i have heard that kids as young as 12 are already experimenting with sex. scary isn't it.??? take preventative measures

Answer 11

Teenagers really want their parents trust. It is frustrating for them to think that their parents have no trust in them. Has your daughter ever done anything to make you feel that you could not trust her? Remember that you can only take the pill for about 10 years. Promoting that she substain from having sex would be the best. Teeangers are not emotionally ready to have the things that come along with being sexually active. They need to be worried about performing well in school, sports etc. Having a boyfriend is not bad, but clearing setting the boundaries is a must.