I met this guy about 3 mos. ago we met on the phone, (business relatated) and became very acquainted with each other 4 mos before meeting, we both fell in love with each other, but he witheld a lot of facts about himself, especially health related problems, he gets very sick at times and says he almost died 4 times before, I've only seen him perhaps 7 times and we attend a class together every week, I've waited for him to come around, we do some biz. together & talk almost every day, but always something comes up & we don't see each other, I have feelings for him still, though he is not that attractive, he is a great friend, I don't know what to do,he talked about marriage before and I can't be waiting for him any more, I feel very lonely and bad, I have a good career & financial situation and I'm not unattractive, but I find myself spending weekends on end by myself at home, I want to re-marry, I don't like being alone, what do I do? I've been praying for a husband & cry a lot
2006-09-17 16:03:34 · 4 answers · asked by You are loved 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is been divorced for over 7 yrs., I see a lot of bitterness and anger, which I understand do to his difficulties & complications with health issues, but he tends to be very critical & mean. He's a great friend to talk to, but doesn't do anything about changing things.
2006-09-17 16:05:52 · update #1
Sounds like you have a lot of great qualities. You need to get out there and explore other options perhaps a night on the town? If you're not a social person match.com or another means of chatting with new prospects. He seems too unavailable for you and everyone deserves to have someone they love in life.I think you should move on. I'm sure you will get over him in time don't cry. I think you should find something to do in your free time maybe workout , find a hobby to keep you busy. Get a new pet anything to fill your void. Best of luck to you finding happiness.
2006-09-17 16:11:45 · answer #1 · answered by pixiegurl 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is waiting for you to persuade him to change things. Some men just need that little push on their tush for them to understand that you need them to move forward. Be sure to let him know that you need him to do certain things. You have nothing to lose, just everything to gain.
He has been through a divorce before. He maybe refer to this as a failure which has discouraged him to marry or dating again. It is a scar for life. Slowly assure him that the scar can be mended by love and you are intend to give it to him. But in order for it to work well, he needs to start to open his arms to new possibility.
2006-09-17 16:14:37 · answer #2 · answered by camellia_ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
quit dancing around the subject and say what you feel ...tell him you wanna go out...that something always comes up is a lame excuse
2006-09-17 16:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by Guy R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's a great friend to talk to, but doesn't do anything about changing things.
SO.....how would you change things?
2006-09-17 16:07:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋