My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 months. We have not had sex yet. We both agreed the other day that intimacy is what is lacking in our relationship. But he said that " i'm used to dating older women.. not younger.. they take what they want seductively.. not ask for it"... So I'm wondering.. if that was his way of telling me that he wants me to be the first one to make the move? Anyone have any advice?
2006-09-17 15:52:18 · 34 answers · asked by blueskylvr1983 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For the record.. I'm 22.. will be 23 in november and he's 30.. and no...he's not a virgin.. he's been married before.
2006-09-17 15:59:40 · update #1
Yeah i reckon go for it.. i mean whats he going to say, no ?? I doubt it..
2006-09-17 15:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's his way of telling you to dump him. Neither of you seem ready to have sex, even if you're willing. And his line about being used to dating older women who "take what they want seductively" sounds like utter balderdash. Maybe he's a virgin, or scared, or just a jerk, but there's something really wrong there if he's not willing to ask for it. Has he even been with an older woman? How old?
2006-09-17 15:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by answersBeta2.1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you 15? Your to young forget about sex it is not the most import thing in a realshionship. No matter what your friends or anyone else say.
take your time life is sort, don't blow it by getting pergnet at your age. Chase if that happens you of ****ed and so is the rest of your life.
2006-09-17 15:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by Sekkennight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you haven't had sex for 5 months and you have been dating? Thats good willpower. I wouldn't make a move talk about it first in your specific scenario.
2006-09-17 16:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by jwurm99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it to me but is that really how you want it to be? Always having to make the first move? If you don't mind having to be the aggressor all the time then go for it. Personally, I like more aggressive men.
2006-09-17 15:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by DeeDee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any guy worth anything would not wait for five months for the girl to make the first move!
He must be reeeeeally insecure for not making a move on you and a real chicken sh*t for blaming it on you!
Dump him. Now!
2006-09-17 15:55:23 · answer #6 · answered by eufrosyne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your question, in any way, if you ask anyways, he's going to give it to you. He' won't pass sex up. If he uses older women as an excuse, then that's lame. Be yourself, and if he doesn't like it, than he ain't worth a dam*.
2006-09-17 15:56:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he wants sex and he wants you to be the one to make the first move and I am sure that he believes that intimacy will come naturally after you two finally have sex .... good luck & best wishes to you and your relationship and when you decide to have sex plz remember to use STD protection and birth control if that is within your religious beliefs .......... MOFO
2006-09-17 16:06:49 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Mojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he might be letting you take the lead. Maybe this is out of consideration for your being younger.
2006-09-17 15:56:22 · answer #9 · answered by giddhom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that would be my conclusion too. Why not? Are you really asking if you should pass up a magic moment? Carpe diem!
2006-09-17 15:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is ambivalent. get him to join you for a no-sex sleep in bed and then violate that rule and stick your hand into his pants. If that does not work, something is wrong here.
2006-09-17 15:55:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋