2006-09-17 15:43:56 · 8 answers · asked by Lucy Lu 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Loving Yourself
You must first love yourself before you can fully love another
In life, we may find it easy to allow ourselves to love and accept multitudes of other people, but when it comes to loving ourselves we're not as forgiving. In fact, we can be quite relentless in our pursuit of perfection. So, how then do you learn to put aside all the shoulds and should nots we face, and really begin a love affair with yourself?
The first step is to realize that you are somebody. You're a friend, someone's daughter or son, possibly a lover, an employee or employer, or maybe even someone's spouse. No matter how your role changes, you're still somebody. Nothing will ever change that.
The next step is to take time out to actually love yourself. In romantic relationships it is often said that true love is shown through actions, not words. Learn to apply this to yourself with the following ideas, and you'll be on the road to a lifetime romance, with yourself!
Dear Me...
Write a love letter to yourself. In the letter describe what you really like about you, and what you'd like to improve about yourself. Keep it in a special place you can refer to when needed.
Scheduling Time
Make appointments with yourself to do artistic or spiritually uplifting activities. For example, you might enjoy going on a picnic at the park, taking a tour through an art museum, or taking a walk in a secluded area.
The Finer Things In Life
Enjoy the finer things in life! Eat on your "good" dishes. Enjoy a candlelit meal. Listen to a favorite CD over champagne. Wear your favorite clothes. Treat yourself to unexpected present.
Enlighten Yourself
Try learning an enlightening hobby such as yoga or meditation.
Freedom Of Yourself
Give yourself freedom to make mistakes. Instead of questioning why you are doing, or may have done, something, just accept that you did it. Know inside that you'll handle it when you're ready to, and that it is okay to do just that.
Forgiveness
Forgive yourself for something in your past. Write a letter of apology that includes everything you might have done. Seal it in an envelope, and keep it somewhere private.
Day-By-Day
Live life day-by-day. Try not to worry about what will, or will not happen in the future. Or, what may, or may not have happened in your past. All things are created in the present. Remember, your future and your past are created by what you are doing right now this very moment.
Peace and Love
Kalela
2006-09-18 19:53:39 · answer #1 · answered by kalela L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
acquire some skills to take pride of, try to be perfect in as many as possible things and be proud of the progress you make. This would be love based on something. You will start to get compliments that will improve your self esteem significantly. When you love yourself for nothing, you become vain and lazy.
Someone suggested you reading the bible, my opinion on that is that doing so will make you arrogant, the way many christians are. Their preachers in church repeat "We are God's people, we are the salt of the earth" so many behave like they are a lot superior to "the worldly people", which is just pathetic!
2006-09-17 16:00:31 · answer #2 · answered by Mondschein! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read this webpage for the best boost to your self love. A great investment in yourself. Also has practical tips.
http://phifoundation.org/happiness.html
2006-09-17 15:53:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Taking care of your own needs before anyone else. I also recommend the book "The Art of Selfishness" by David Seabury.
2006-09-17 19:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by daryavaush 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn to accept yourself for who you are, change the things you are not happy with and you can control and you will find self love.....
2006-09-17 15:51:26 · answer #5 · answered by umcntry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the Bible, Trust in God and have Him in your heart at all times. He is a God of love and He forgives all those who come to Him and turn to Him for Love. If we believe everything is possible. With God all things are possible! Amen.
2006-09-17 15:51:11 · answer #6 · answered by Max 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
patience. love your flaws. and you will have a deeper appreciation for who you are.
2006-09-17 16:03:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a god who loves you unconditionally.
2006-09-17 15:46:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋