We've been 2gether 4 almost a year and I love him so much but when he drinks we always get in fights. He's very affectionate, sweet etc. but when he gets drunk its like dr. jekkl/ mr. hyde. He gets stand offish and snaps at me. He flirts with every female in the room. regardless of looks. we always fight, break up and then i get a call the next day "sorry baby iwas drunk it won't happen again i love you" I love him so much & don't want to leave him but I don't know if i can take it anymore. What do i do? can we work on this or should i call it quits? serious answers please : (
2006-09-17 15:41:39 · 10 answers · asked by pixiegurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I like to drink socially so how would this work if he can't? I don't feel I have a problem having a few now and then. Confused and in love
2006-09-17 16:02:10 · update #1
if u r a guy that has this problem i wanna chat with u please
2006-09-17 16:56:10 · update #2
I'm a guy with that problem. I have been with my girlfriend for two years and everyting is great until I get drunk when she is around. Sometimes I can maintain, but most of the time I do or say something rude (ex. just leave her at a party and go elsewhere without telling her) I always end up being very apologetic in the morning but I know it strains the relationship because she is pretty headstrong and won't take much more of it. It for me is definitely a problem that stems from alchohol and I honestly don't know if I can ever quit messing up no matter how many times I tell her I won't do it again. I honestly believe myself when I tell her I will be good but once I start drinking, the frame of mind changes and its like I forget everthing I told her last Saturday morning and I'll just screw up again. Our temporary solutions are 1. She avoids hanging around me when I'm going to drink. 2. If we are going to hang out, we have a little pep talk beforehand which sometimes helps. Bottom line is I will most likely always disappoint her if I drink around her and lose her in the process. The only permanent solution I can see is for me to stop drinking completely which I am not ready to do.
2006-09-17 16:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by Christopher 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was you I would sit down and have a talk with him and let him know that he needs counseling. Tell hime that you will help him through it every step of the way as long as he gets help otherwise tell him how you feel and that you can't take it anymore. If he truely loves you and is sorry then he'll do it. IF he doesn't care or think that he needs the help then sorry but you need to move before he does something to you and doesn't realize it until its too late. If he is willing to get help then yes you can work on your relationship. I wouldn't call it quits until he tells you that hes not getting the help or stops drinking. Good luck.
2006-09-17 22:49:25 · answer #2 · answered by Heather A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, guess you should talk with him seriously, of course when he's not drunk. Ask him what he's really want on your relationship. If he still want you in his life I'm sure he can stop his bad drinking problem. Just do the observation after a while. If he still get drunk and do the snap thing and soon, just leave him I guess, cause I believe you won''t be happy too.
Good luck and take care.
2006-09-17 22:47:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has no problem with drinking, he does it well and often! You need to send him packing. Won't take long for him to come over after one of these fights and say "I didn't mean to hit you, I was drunk". Lose him, if he gets help with the drinking ( by that I mean PROFESSIONAL help) you may consider a second (or seventh, as the case may be) chance
2006-09-17 22:44:45 · answer #4 · answered by rageagainsttheansweringmachine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you realize that you answered your own question?Robert Louis Stevenson,the author of Dr.Jekyll and Mr.Hyde died as a result of complications brought on by ALCOHOLISM!!!I hate the hot stove theory but sometimes it works.How many times do you have to get hurt(stick your hand on the hot stove)and say ouch before you grasp the reality of the situation.Yes he has a drinking problem!!!The real question is...How many more times are you going to say ouch?
2006-09-18 03:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by Mr.Intellect 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he has a drinking problem. Been there done that and you cant ever win over a man with a drinking problem
2006-09-17 22:59:35 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say call it quits unless you can get him to give up the drinking because it might be worse later on .
2006-09-17 22:44:37 · answer #7 · answered by sunflowerchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he does have a severe drinking problem. or he is just an idiot who pretends to be drunk
2006-09-17 22:46:20 · answer #8 · answered by king cobra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt have a problem YOU do.... Its YOUR problem you have to deel with it if you cannt handle it ,,,, move on
2006-09-17 22:47:35 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call it quits for sure.. it will never change.
2006-09-17 22:45:10 · answer #10 · answered by Tonya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋