get married, how do they decide what side of the country to have the wedding on? (Both parties have the same amount of family in their respective states)
The groom is from OR, the bride is from NY.
IT'S NOT ME!!!
2006-09-17 15:41:07 · 14 answers · asked by Tai Li 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Tradition holds that the wedding should take place in the BRIDE'S hometown, preferably at the church she grew up in or attends. (If there is going to be a church ceremony).
Of course, my cousin who is getting married in 2 weeks is getting married in HIS hometown, so really it's just up to the bride and groom.
As far as the following the money thing (1st answer) -- traditionally the Bride's family pays for most of the wedding, so why make them pay for travel expenses too?? maybe.
Perhaps in such an extreme situation like this, they can have a small ceremony in a place of their choosing with only their most immediate family and then have 2 receptions - one in each state?? Creativity seems to be the main rule these days!
2006-09-17 15:50:09 · answer #1 · answered by goodlittlegirl11 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mostly when couple from opposite sides of the country decided to get marry, the groom side would be better for both because the man is the bread winner and it would be hard to ask for leave in his company...but if the groom is working independently they could marry where the bride is from. also it depends on the kind of wedding, if it is simple or grand wedding...
If the bride has more family to attend, than the groom, they would decide to do it on bride's side..as for the budget planning, it can be held either bride or groom side if they could afford to.
as it always be the bride to move to groom's place ..mostly at groom's side the wedding is held.
based on my experience with friends who are married to foreigners ..
hope this helps..
2006-09-17 23:06:28 · answer #2 · answered by Ny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best solution would be to have the wedding on one side of the country and the reception a couple of weeks later on the other side. I've had people do this when they had a lot of family in Hawaii. They got married in Hawaii and then 3 weeks later had a huge reception in California. Worked out well, everyone was happy.
2006-09-17 22:49:06 · answer #3 · answered by ggirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's always been that the bride holds the wedding where she lives.
But that isn't always possible. Sometimes they meet halfway, but that makes planning a wedding rather difficult.
Is it possible to have just his parents attend the actual wedding & reception and then for the couple to fly to his hometown so that there could be a ring ceremony & reception? That way both families get to be a part of the happy occassion.
2006-09-17 22:50:35 · answer #4 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well when my husband & I got married, we got married in San Diego because that's where we live. I was born and raised here, so it was easy for most of my family. His family was mostly in Arkansas. We flew his mom out, his Aunt Uncle & cousins drove down from L.A. for the wedding. I think they should just get married wherever they live. If they live in New York (which would be more convenient for the brode's family), then maybe they can help with some of the airfare for the groom's realtives. (and vice versa)
Or maybe they could do a destination wedding at a neutral location somewhere in between.
Or they could do 2 smaller weddings. one with the bride's family in ny, & one with his family in oregon. they could just have their parents at each one.
something else that we did since most of my husband's family wasn't able to attend was we made scrapbooks of the wedding for his grandparents & other close family members for christmas (we were married in october). we also had a copy made of our video for his mom to take home with her to show to the family, & she also brought wedding favors for everyone out there.
2006-09-18 01:07:15 · answer #5 · answered by kiki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no one way to decide. If number of family in each state is truly equal, they might consider whose relatives are more elderly and less able to travel, or who are less able to travel due to their finances. Or they may decide based on difference of price in throwing a wedding in OR versus NY.
2006-09-17 23:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where the groom lives. I think the best country would be where both parties agree to.
2006-09-17 23:13:13 · answer #7 · answered by haseen_gudiya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have it somewhere in the middle of the country. That way both sides have about as equal chance to get there.
2006-09-17 22:52:32 · answer #8 · answered by Crossroads Keeper 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
A Denver, Colorado wedding...followed by a Denver Broncos game. :-)
2006-09-17 22:49:09 · answer #9 · answered by John L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
they should choose a town in the middle of the country to have the wedding ...
2006-09-17 22:52:23 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Mojo 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋