I am feeling shy asking for a date or get flustered when I do get asked. I even miss guys who are flirting with me! I am really bad about the approch. Any help about the dating rules, etc would be very much appreciated!
2006-09-17 15:36:30 · 10 answers · asked by ~Heather~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey,,,everybody is feeling uneasy. If they're not, then they're players. Too bad about your loss, but have fun with dating and just relax and meet people.
2006-09-17 15:40:49 · answer #1 · answered by strong and soft 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you know a 20 year old gal that is still single and likes to go out. If she is game go with her and see how it is done. Actually it has not changed over the years. Don't be afraid to look a little sexy either. Not too much though. You are at a good age to be out there. After a few times you will fall into the ways of making men notice you. The men most of the time are just as afraid as you are. The tough acting ones usually are so frightened they have to put on the act for themselves more than for you. Thirty five to fifty is when the gals are really the best.
2006-09-17 16:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about your loss.
My advice if from a conservative point of view, which means that it is reasonable. I'm a 56 year old man, so you can still take it as fatherly advice.
Don't approach men or ask them out, it's not your role. The only exception would be that if a man is outstanding beyond belief, then you could possilby invite him to a group barbeque or something like that.
If you want to home in on someone, you have all the tools; it's just a matter of how much you turn up your motor. Just be friendly, you can flirt and he should pick up on your signal.
That's about it, except a couple of things. You have to understand that most men today are very unprincipled and are mainly interested in sex, and not going out on date for innocent reasons, or to seek a woman to marry.
It's very sad, but just because you've been married before, it doean't mean that you should go along with this. In fact, you never should and you should hold men to high standards.
Finally, I would recommend not listening to the advice of liberals who tell you the opposite. I wish you the best.
P.S. I just saw the advice above about online dating and I do not recommend this. Go about your affairs and meet people in you daily life.
2006-09-17 15:48:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think I can help you. I am in the same boat as you. I bet you feel that because you have a child - baggage??, or you haven't dated anyone in such a long period of time that you don't know what the hell you are doing!!!
I looked at it this way, and it's worked really wonders for me. I always had the ideology that I was the only one in my position and that if I met somebody the first thing they would ask me was all the bad things about my situations. I was so wrong. I just took the simple approach, and it is the best.
Think about how badly people really want to be asked out or just to go out and have a great time! We are all really the same, we just want to chit chat, talk, whatever!
Next time you see a guy you are interested in, just walk up to him, chances are he wants to meet somebody just as much as you do - regardless of circumstances.
There are no rules, nothing - just be yourself - we are all people and believe it or not, we all understand. It's never easy, but you just have to erase everything you thought and start over - we're all people, we all want the same thing. Have faith in yourself, it works wonders!
2006-09-17 15:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am 43 years old. my advice is a dating site online. I met my fiance that way. I was a stay at home mom and hadnt been out much. I got on the site and made some new friends, had a great time, it gives you the power to say no from a distance or the option to take time to get to know them better. Also you get to know who they are inside before feeling like you have to deal with possible rejections. It worked for me and as long as you are careful when you go to meet someone, always let someone know where and when you will be meeting get personal info and a check in time to let your friends or family know you are safe. and GOOD LUCK HAVE FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-17 15:42:39 · answer #5 · answered by PartyFavor 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my father is going through the same thing right now, but he is a bit older than you. if you want to you can join some free internet sites (if you haven't already) like okcupid.com, bookofmatches.com, or even myspace.com- just to get you started on conversation with other singles. it is great over the net cause you don't have the pressure of face-to-face, just pictures. also, it can give you a daily boost of confidence if you check the web page and have a message from someone saying 'you sound wonderful' or 'your eyes are beautiful'. if you have any single friends, go out with them to socialize, and if you don't have any single friends--- GET SOME!! it will really help to have people to talk to who understand. hope this helps.
2006-09-17 15:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
when guys flirt:
inhale deeply.
close ur eyes 4 a coupla secs
smile internally
exhale.
while exhaling, half open ur eyes and bring ur inner smile to ur face
let ur entire bidy radiate ur feelings
2006-09-17 15:41:48 · answer #7 · answered by hsarora47 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
slow down and take a GOOD look at what your doing, the right man is out there for you we're not all taken!! GOOD luck!!
2006-09-17 15:40:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
good luck.
2006-09-17 15:38:03 · answer #9 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its a jungle out there,,,,,,,,,,,
2006-09-17 15:37:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋