Well, here is the situation.....I was driving by my ex girlfriend's house who has a restraining order out on me. Well, she had her blinds up and I saw her in the kitchen so I figured I could just stop and apologize for acting crazy in the past (wasn't on my meds at the time). Well, when i rang the doorbell, no one answered so I was like this is weird b/c i just saw her in there. I started panicking and thinking maybe she was being held and gun point or something so i went and got my baseball bat out of the trunk and broke her window to unlock the door. Then I called out for her to see if everything was okay and the next thing I know the cops come rushing in and arrest me! Then she comes out and starts saying that I broke in and this and that. I was like what!?!? I can't believe my girlfriend didn't hear me ring the doorbell 20 times. Anyways, I'm out on bond but the court date is in two weeks. Do you think I was justified and they will let me off?
2006-09-17 15:36:12 · 19 answers · asked by Sandstorm222 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry, but there is no justification for what you did.
The poor girl probably saw it was you at the door and was afraid to answer the bell.
She had a restraining order against you for a good reason. To break that order, even if you think she is in trouble, is a violation of the law.
I don't think anyone is going to go easy on you. Chalk it up to experience, leave the girl alone and take your medication.
D
2006-09-17 15:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by Bugsy Groucho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ringing the doorbell 20 times, being afraid she was held at gunpoint and breaking in - with a restraining order against you - i know this will sound like i am joking but i am not - if you are on meds right now, they are not the right ones, not the right dose, OR you need further treatment. It is unlikely you will get "off" but I hope you get further evaluation and treatment. Based on what you wrote, you appear to need more help with thinking things through, with a bit of paranoia in your thinking (loved one held at gun point) and with making good decisions that do not frighten your loved ones to pieces. Good intentions are only the beginning. How you express them needs to be thought through and you need to have an understanding of how your actions appear to others and what they perceive as a loving action from you. If I had a restraining order against someone and I WAS being held at gunpoint and the person I had the restraining order against broke in to my house at that moment, I would not feel relieved. What would my supposed rescuer do? Hit the guy with the gun with a chair? If you thought she was in danger, better to call the police without giving your name and let them check it out. Granted, I am a stranger to you, and that is a big consideration in this scenario, I am just trying to give you another perspective from another woman's point of view.
2006-09-17 16:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by Sambhavi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know what state you live in, but if she had a restraining order against you, AND you knew it, AND you broke out her window with a baseball bat, no, it was not justified. If she was frightened enough to get a restraining order against you (and these are not usually easy to get), what made you think that she would want you to "drop by"? In my educated opinion, you are in a lot of trouble, and you will probably receive some kind of sentence, be it jail time or a fine.
2006-09-17 15:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by tn_lovett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be logical; if she had a restraining order against you, she didn't want you ringing her doorbell. You could have been arrested for doing only that. If you want to apologize, do so in court. Promise to obey the restraining order and keep your promise, no matter how you feel or what you think. In court, offer the money to pay for the damage to her home. Do not speak to her unless the judge tells you to; speak to the judge instead. And remember one thing, no matter how painful it may be: she is not your girlfriend.
2006-09-17 15:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby....it don't sound like you ever went back to taking your medication...
I'm pretty sure she heard the doorbell but let's refresh your memory & remind you that she has a restraining order against you, meaning that she doesn't want to be bothered.
Here are some better effective ways to apologize:
*Write her a letter & mail it
*Call her
*Email her
There are more but here's a few to chose from the next time you try to apologize...
2006-09-17 15:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by NicNac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U WERENT JUSTIFIED U BROKE INTO HER HOUSE AND U BROKE THE LAW SHE HAS A RESTRAINING ORDER ON U 4 A REASON AND U DIDNT RESPECT THAT AT ALL. THERE IS A REASON SHE DIDINT ANSWER THE DOOR, MY ADVICE STAY AWAY FROM HER BCUZ U WILL END UP IN JAIL FOR SURE AND NOT GET LET OUT ON BOND. GET SOME HELP FOR WHAT EVER PROBLEM U HAVE GOING ON. PROFESSIONAL HELP THAT IS. GO 2 CHURCH AND FIND GOD THATS A GOOD HELP.
2006-09-17 15:41:33 · answer #6 · answered by smiley283 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
great thinking to keep a baseball bat handy in the trunk for such situations!!! I'm sure the jugde will believe you, especially since she already had a restraining order against you. Personally, I think you should stalk her to make sure she doesn't have anyone besides yourself scaring her or hurting her. Agreed?
2006-09-17 15:45:37 · answer #7 · answered by breaker_1020 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The judge isn't going to believe this story any more than I do.
A restraining order is out against you because you act like a nut and she is afraid for her safety. You just proved why it is necessary.
I would have been terrified if I was her.
2006-09-17 15:39:44 · answer #8 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just who do you think you will convince with this story?
Your GIRLFRIEND has a restraining order on YOU, and you break in her door? The rest is totally immaterial.
There's no way you can prove what you say you were THINKING. ( even if it is what you were thinking, but none of us believes that!)
Bye Bye, jailbird!
2006-09-17 15:43:19 · answer #9 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH YEA, your not good with hints are you,,with or without meds,, don't worry where your going for a long time ,,,,run that story by your new friends,,,they'll just LOVE YOU,,,,6'x8' room for 2 and his name is BUBBA....ENJOY YOUR VACATON,,,,,ONE MORE THING DON'T DROP THE SOAP IN THE SHOWER
2006-09-17 15:52:49 · answer #10 · answered by tnedutsmp .rM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋