We've had a bit of a rough relationship. (Breaking up getting back together kind of things)
[[which has only happened twice]]
We have a high school/college relationship
*im a senior in college hes a sophomore in college.*
and we argue like normal couples do obviously.
but lately as we've been recovering from our last break up, (it was a awful one)
and as we get closer and getting back to where we were i find my self jumping down his throat at any slight thing he does wrong.
I keep pushing him away and then pulling him in
like im afraid we might break up again.
(i look so pathetic)
I want it back to how things where before we broke up. is that even possible?
2006-09-17 15:35:06 · 11 answers · asked by Katy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had a typo:
Im a senior in ***high school
2006-09-17 15:38:35 · update #1
It might be possible, but it sounds like you are afraid of being hurt again. People tend to start this behavior when the relationship is going sour, they feel like they're losing control, and they are in love with a memory of how it "used to be." You can continue with the yo-yo relationship and end up getting hurt worse than you have been, or you can move forward and see if you can make it to the altar. If that's not your goal, then it's probably time to move on. If that is your goal, your going o have to let go of the past hurt (easier said than done) and fears of losing him. You will have to stop doing things to try to control him to keep the upper hand.
Edit in response to your typo: My advice was geared toward a college senior. If you're in high school, cut your losses. You need to grow up and you will change immensely during your college years. If this is a high school yo-yo, then it's still going to be pretty juvenile. When you're old enough and mature enough for a serious adult relationship, then follow my advice. I put very little stock in high school romances. If he is a soph. in college, he is at a different place in his life. You might catch up with him on campus one day and reignite, but if you attend a large university, there might be upwards of 50,000 students on campus. About 25,000 of those will be male. How many of those would you like to date? Date a LOT in college. Doing that will cause you to know yourself and what you need in a mate in a way that you will never know in high school or by marrying the first guy who comes along.
2006-09-17 15:39:45 · answer #1 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been married for 10 years and my husband is 13 years older. during the first five years of even a marriage, it is most tough. if you are not planning on a long term committment, dont give this relationship too much credit. if you are constantly fighting, find out what bugs you about this person and discuss it with him. if you are pushing him away, then that is an issue you need to address with yourself.
2006-09-17 22:39:13 · answer #2 · answered by Madonna1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your boyfriend had a college relationship I can only hope he has learned more than you. The grammar and spelling in your letter is terrible. No wonder you look pathetic, you sound pathetic.
2006-09-17 22:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by Roper 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
actually i think you should break up with him. but not get back together. it sounds like you guys are growing apart. it is not good to keep fighting. you will not have it back like the old days. belive me i tried it once. we broke up so many times that you both started going crazy. we dont even speech anymore. if you brake up know then you can still be friends.
2006-09-17 22:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by betyloveschips 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it will never be the same but, it can still be good. Ask yourself why you keep pushing him away. Are you afraid of this relationship? Don't keep jumping down his throat or you wlll probablly lose him.
2006-09-17 22:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think You truly are ready to spread your wings and find something new however change is hard so we usually stick to what we know for you that is your boyfriend. Dont be with him just so that you dont feel lonely it is not fare to you or him take some time for urself.
2006-09-17 22:39:17 · answer #6 · answered by tamara s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always believed and know from experience that once you brake up there is not going back to the same relationship you had before...something just happens and you cant repair it...you keep on fighting over very small stupid things...
2006-09-17 22:38:46 · answer #7 · answered by Mila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Push too hard and too far and one day he will not return.
2006-09-17 22:36:36 · answer #8 · answered by EHS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop eating "Soy" it's a Fido ester-gent and changes your hormones and can really mess with your head..
2006-09-17 22:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by inacents 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your insecure
2006-09-17 22:37:20 · answer #10 · answered by wil_t52 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋