I am residing in a joint family. Me, My Wife, My Child, My Mother and My younger brother. There is a big difference of my thinking and my brother's. My mother always favours him. I want to live a sepretate life. Should I live seperately?
If yes, should I live in same house without disturbing others or
in seperate place ?
2006-09-17 15:31:57 · 13 answers · asked by JAHANGIR N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think its time for you to get your own house. There can only be one man of the house and I think your mother sees that man as your brother.
2006-09-17 15:48:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you really can't reach a consensus with your family, then I guess moving into a separate place might be good for you and your family. Perhaps you all just need some space of your own to live in, or perhaps you might just be tired of living with your mother and brother. Try giving it a little more time before you finally decide to leave or stay. Perhaps get the opinions about the situation of your wife or child . Which ever way you choose, there are people there around you that will probably help or support you. Good luck.
2006-09-17 22:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might have been great at first- finacially- But in the end you really should live apart-
You are married and you and your wife need your own space for your family to have a life of your own- You do not need walk on eggshells trying to not disturb others- live your life . Let your mom and brother do their own thing- it dosen't mean you do not respect or love your mom,, but you are a grown man needing to make a start of your own for your wife and child- Good luck!
2006-09-17 23:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by lilRed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, Yes! Honey there is no house made for two women to live in! And love ain't got nothin to do with it! You, your wife and child are a family. You three need a place of your own. Look at it like this, your wife has a husband and a baby to take care of. She needs her own little nest, you know. That's the way God put us women together. We need our own house to care for, our own way. Believe me Honey, do yourself a favor, get your wife her own house, you will all be so much happier. Even your Mom and them will be OK with it. You are a grown man with a family of your own, take care of them man, its your responsibility to make sure they are happy and content. Trust me when I tell you it will be the best move you ever make!
Good Luck Dear, take my advice, you'll be happy you did!, Your friend on line, TERRY
2006-09-17 22:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by maudiemelvirda@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, in my experience, living with extended family is difficult. Short term is ok, but long term almost always results in difficulty. Of course, there are good points too. But, if you can afford to do so, I think living in a seperate home is better.
2006-09-17 22:35:34 · answer #5 · answered by tntwade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already answered your question: Get your own space (house, apartment, condo, cardboard box, so long as it's yours). Since your mother favors your brother so much, let them live together so they'll be happy.
When you do get your own space, they can come to visit, but they will have no say in what you do or how you do it. And, whatever you do, DO NOT let them move in. Good luck.
2006-09-17 23:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually they say that ....living away from each other creates a stronger bond, than living together. Coz when u live together its the same thing always.. opinions differ and causes conflicts.
Try moving temporarily away from them and see how it works.
2006-09-17 22:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by p_suzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your married, you and your wife should be out on your own, with your kids. It's not healthy to have your parents so involved in a marriage, you most definitely need your own space.
2006-09-17 22:36:36 · answer #8 · answered by inluvwshana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need your own home for for your family, you and your wife, it never works to live together, don't you want some privacy???
2006-09-17 22:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by Manera 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seperate place dude. Its gettin cramped in there and ppl are gonna get grumpy no matter how much they love you
2006-09-17 22:34:13 · answer #10 · answered by shoot em up D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋