I am reposting this because I did not receive any good responses:
We've known each other since Nov. 2005 and officially got together in Feb. 2006. In October he plans on getting mobilized and going back to his hometown in NC so that he can be closer to where he is stationed (he's in the military). I am 21 -- he is 26. He feels that I am an adult and should be able to do what I want, but at the same time, my mother doesn't like our relationship and I know she would be devasted if I left her. He respects her decision since I still live at home, but he says at some point and time I am going to have to leave and my mother cannot hold on to me forever. I'm not sure if I should just abruptly leave to go with him to his home or stay up here. He definitely has plans of marrying me if I come with him and he really wants me to go to college and just get from under the control of my parent.
2006-09-17 15:25:48 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well you just started seeing him and although he seems to be a good guy, ultimately, our loyalty should be towards our parents. He sounds to be a little controlling but then it's only an opinion. Mom's have a 6 sense when it comes to men that their daughters date. That is based from experience and they really dont want anything bad happening to their daughters. Moving to NC sounds great and sounds like fun (I mean your playing house) but if something happens bad to you, your family wont be there to help you out of it. He wants you to go to College and it sounds like he is helping you out right? Cant your parents do that? My advice would be, give it a few months. If you miss him and cant picture yourself with out him, then by all means move in with him. Good Luck
2006-09-17 15:37:32 · answer #1 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you should sit down and talk with your mother and determine just why she does not like your having a relationshiop with this man. Evidently she sees something in him that you're missing. some times people on the out side see things that people on the inside do not see.
Second if the man has intentions of marrying you why does he not go ahead and do it now? Seems that you and him are both plenty old enough to be married. you should give this some serious thought. If you go to N.C. he has got you where he wants you with no obligation at all he can dump you anytime he has got enough of you.
2006-09-17 22:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by roy40372 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
education is important, you should put your fuure at first, i know love is hard to find but since you r 21 and i think you should put you r future at first then you talk about love. have you ever think that if you leave out of college now and got married (if it is goin to be) you live with your husband and your hubby did not earn much, you have 2 children then you will start thinking why do i did't go to college. you might haven think of this but think~!if you put at first place you must prepair yourself, it is a tough world out there, i seen some of my aunt goin through this kind of life. some of them got lucky ,their hubby work hard and earn it (become manager) and also some of them only got to stay at the same house for the last 25 years~!same car ,same job and same faces and they keep on telling me if 25 years back i got my offer i will.....but that is just to last to say. if this love could last it will last. think wisely before you act.
2006-09-17 22:40:13 · answer #3 · answered by aeeyo1314 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could suggest ten reasons why not to, but you can find in the book at the link below. Your local library should have a copy.
2006-09-17 22:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is right you do have to leave your mother someday. if you love him and he loves you why not follow him.your mother will forgive you she is your MOTHER. i think you should go and if does not work out just move back home
2006-09-17 22:37:00 · answer #5 · answered by sunflowerchick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋