my cousin is mean, annoying, a tattle tale, she thinks she's better than everyone, and puts me down. i personally dont like her, but i dont tell her that. She started a new school a week ago and she called me up and bragged about it and told me i had no friends, i was childish, teased me, and told me mean things and put me down. Then when my mom was talking to my Aunt (not my cousin's mom, my mom sis...my cousins mom is my moms sis-in-law) and she told my mom AWFUL things that my cousin had told her mom and then her mom told my Aunt...then my Aunt told my Mom. They were untrue, she said i was a reject, social outkast, and other things i dont want to say. what do u think. i dont think family should be treaitn each other like this ....what do you think?
2006-09-17 15:08:07 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't be sad. It sounds like your cousin is just like you said, and you are right, family should not treat each other that way. Just remember, she is the one with the problems, not you. Hopefully she will grow out of it, but until then, you can't let it interfere with your life. Keep talking to your mom and aunt and let them know how you are doing in school and in church, what you and your friends are up to, your hobbies, etc. Let them see who you really are. You like animals, right? Maybe you could volunteer at a veterinarian's office or at a zoo, or even work pet sitting for neighbors or at a pet store - just some suggestions. Again, don't let someone else interfere with your life just because they have problems.
2006-09-17 15:19:13 · answer #1 · answered by Curious1usa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree...family shouldn't treat family like that, but there's not much you can be other than not be all those things she says you are...also...stop talking to her...you have better things to do with your time...don't call her and don't answer when she calls...if your mom forces you to talk to her on the phone just don't respond to anything she says...if she asks you a question give her a yes or no one word answer, don't elaborate and don't have any conversation with her...treat her with disinterest...as she is not worth your time after all of the things she has said to you and about you...Don't be nice to her again until she apologizes to you and tells everyone else including your Mom that she lied...Good Luck.
2006-09-17 22:16:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom that you want nothing to do with your cousin. Let her know that she lies about you and says mean things to you. Then when the little witch of a cousin of yours calls don't talk to her. Even if you pick up the phone let her talk, don't answer, then hang up. She'll get the message. If she continues to talk behind your back everyone will know she's a liar if you have nothing to with her.
2006-09-17 22:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her get you down, someone like that isn't even worth getting upset over. I agree family shouldn't treat each other that way, but it happends I am sorry to say. Just learn to let it go in ear and the out the other, and move on. One day your be a success and your cousin will be flip'in burgers at Burger King. Just take it one day at a time.
2006-09-17 22:12:24 · answer #4 · answered by Little_Lilth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is jealous of u n by putting u down it lifts her up. ignore her behavior, stop having time 4 her, cut her short when u can. as 4 ur mom tell her the truth n then dont give cousin a inch if u let her see u mad or upset at all it will just give her more will 2 continue.
good luck n dont sweat it hun its not worth it
2006-09-17 22:12:12 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Advice? Be content with yourself. So you find yourself feeling more grownup than the grownups and your cousin is a follower of the circle of gossip so she can blend...her own defense mechanism of survival. Youre not a follower....Lots of great memorable people were not followers...they were leaders and inspirational. Conforming to your peers and family members may prove disheartening and against your inner instincts. Not conforming may cause you to be labled an outcast. Do what it takes to get along, but dont lose your individuality and common sense. Because you project arrogance in non conformity it's natural for the gossipers to try to knock you down to their narrow minded level. Grow up and surround yourself with sweetness in your friends and future mate. ;)
2006-09-17 22:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey people who put you down are jealous of you! Hold your head up high and don't listen to her, also don't feed into her ignorance either....you are better than that. Keep in the back of your head that she is just belittling you to boost her own self esteem and think how sad and pathetic it must be to be her. Look at yourself and be glad you are who you are...if you know the things she says isn't true then your true friends and family will know the truth as well. I believe in karma and what comes around goes around and karma will smack her in the face soon enough, trust me on that! Cheer up...and don't take her calls anymore either, next time she calls...just say "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't call me anymore!" and hang up the phone! Keep negativity OUT of your life! :)
2006-09-17 22:13:33 · answer #7 · answered by Shae 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
confront your cousin. ask her why she is doing these things to you. if you can resolve the problem. ask advice from your school counsellor.
talk to your mom. honesty is the best policy. i'm sure she would appreciate your honsety. clear up the gray area.
i'm sure your mom wouldn't be easily intimidated with the rumors. maybe she'll be a little bit worried but every mom in the world would worry about their kids. its their job!
cheer up! it's not important what others think about you! the most important is what you think about yourself because you are the only one know the truth and reality beside God!
2006-09-17 22:17:59 · answer #8 · answered by immortality1983 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Mom that you will not speak to your cousin anymore. Then tell her why, and then DO NOT SPEAK TO THE B--CH anymore. You need not give in to the viciousness of this twit. If this is how she treats others, she will have no friends at this rate. If she calls, do not talk to her. If you see her, do not talk to her. Tell your Mom that your cousin is dead to you. This will drive her (your cousin) nuts and you will win this one. You can not win by interacting with her. As you get older she will just get worse. Nip it at the bud now. It will help restore your self-esteem too! No one needs a bully in their life.
2006-09-17 22:23:43 · answer #9 · answered by It All Matters.~☺♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Alot of kids, mostly girls, need to fit in.
Preps(no offence not all are like this) put others down for popularity points.
But this isn't the only reason they do this.
Some people have low self-esteem.. so what do they do?
Make fun of others.
If they're suffering, making you suffer might make them feel good.
Maybe she just needs understanding, or maybe you need to not answer your calls.
Some people don't change.
Try to be there for her, talk to her.
If it doesn't work then wait until she grows up.
Act if it doesn't bother you and they go away.
I wish you goodluck!
2006-09-17 22:15:19 · answer #10 · answered by Cox 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋