This girl and me were really close, we would stay up till 12 in the mornin talkin sometime, now that mite not be alot, but it is for her, she is homeschooled, I go to public school. Well I asked her to the movies, and she said Idk maybe , and REALLy backed off, she seemed nervous around me, I thought she just didnt wanna hurt my feelings, but she told her friends, she just wants to see if I can stick with her. Well we got further and further apart, until I couldnt stand it anymore and I emailed her, spilled my guts, and asked her to be brutally honest on how she fealt about me, heres what she said
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later
Now, When I read that two things come to mind. One, that she is just trying to be nice. But on the other hand, she is just scared, because she has never had a bf b4, and weve been friends since age 7.
But now she seems more comfortable around me, like now she talks more, and seems more comfortable, but then she'll seem like she wants me, I can tell by the way she looks, and the way she acts, she just seems really sad, and down,
Oh yeah, and she told her mom , that she is just really really scared, and that she does like me, but she told her friends she just dont want to hurt my feelings, now her and her mom are really close, but so are her and her friends, Do you think she likes me, or is just letting me down easy?
And I am respecting her wishes, I emailed her and told her that I respect her decision, and we havent talked about it since.
But I really really do care for her, I wake up and she's the first thing I think about, I go to sleep and Fall asleep thinking about her. I mean I know I'm only 15, but I really do love her, and would do anything in this world to be with her. I've tried moving on, I've been trying to do that, but I just can't. Even though I am am guy, yes I have cried numerous time for her, and about her. I mean, I'm not ugly, I'm fit, and I'm not a big geek or anything, so what gives? I really do love her, what should I do?
2006-09-17 15:02:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nope, not reading this blabbering.....cut it down to about 6 sentences.
2006-09-17 15:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you think you are in love. You are 15 and you truly do not know what love is. I know you don't want to hear that. I know you think you are old enough too. I have been in the same shoes as you on more than one occasion. She just wants to be your friend. She wants to be able to talk to you about things she can noone else. You should love that about the relationship you do have with her. If you want to take her to the movies, then go. Tell her that friends go and do things like that. They go out to eat fast food and watch movies. Just kind of back off as far as saying things like 'I love you' and replace it with things like 'I value your friendship'. If she won't go places with you (as a friend), then maybe your friendship isn't as strong as you thought. The closer you become, then maybe she will think of you as more than friends. I am 22 years old so it hasn't been so long ago for me. Just go through your youth and have fun. Stop crying at night and go have some fun. There are several other girls that are awesome to be around. Trust me.
2006-09-17 22:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by roll_tide37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should believe what she is telling you and accept her as a friend and not as a potential girlfriend. Most people at some time in their lives will be attracted or fall in love with a person who doesn't reciprocate the feelings. The good news is that she is not the right person for you! The right person will adore you and will return your love and want to spend the rest of their life with you and you will feel the same way. So, if I were you I would wait for that person. - Good luck
2006-09-17 22:20:21 · answer #3 · answered by litewrka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she kinda seems like she likes you but she is just scared! if you two did start to become more than friends and something happened she doesn't want it to ruin a perfectly good friendship! i think that she doesn't want to lose you! It would be hard after knowing someone that long and it may even feel awkward for her you just have to sit back and think like a girl and possinly try to talk to her again. but what ever you do don't make it awkward! don't chase her away wiht your feelings she might not be ready to take it a step further with you just relax!
"Having the love of your life break up with you and saying we can still be friends is just like your dog dying and your mom saying you can still keep it!"
REMEBER THINK HOW SHE FEELS! GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-17 22:12:07 · answer #4 · answered by bonkers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young, and so is she. You just need to do what you are doing, after all you said you love her, give her the time that she needs. Let her see that you are not going anywhere, you are there for her. Little point, I tell my friends alot of crap, because girls can't be trusted all the time. If she told her mom that you would be better off listening to that. She is around her mom more sense she is home schooled and girls tell there mom more truths than they do friends.
2006-09-17 22:10:13 · answer #5 · answered by little D. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you havent told her how you truly feel then tell her, If you have then give her some space. A lot of people will not date their friends just for the fact that they dont want to ruin their friendship, well if you are in love with her as you say then go for it. My current boyfriend and I were best friends and we have been together for almost 2 years. Who Knows you better than your friends?
2006-09-17 22:09:34 · answer #6 · answered by janice_g_baker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez...not you again. Just forget it and find some other chick. If you have been asking the same question for the past month and still haven't figured it out then I think that should be a hint to you to just let it go man!
2006-09-17 22:06:51 · answer #7 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like yes she may be scared but that she is really not interested at this point. I would just let it go for now and let time pass. Who knows she may realize as she becomes less afraid that she loves you too. However, don't wait around for her...live your life
2006-09-17 22:07:24 · answer #8 · answered by tabkat73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would back off a bit and just try to be friends if you can...
if you push too much and keep getting info. from her friends and her mom, i would think that will probably start to tick her off.
i'm sure she cares for you, hopefully in time she will realize how much...
2006-09-17 22:12:33 · answer #9 · answered by tinkbostwick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋