I personally lost as how to move on from a GF I was with 5 years ago. For me she was my Soul Mate, but I let my Clinical Depression cut me off from her and we lost touch. 4 years later I got up the courage to contact her since I've spent every day of those 4 years thinking about her.
She's long since moved on, become engaged to another Canadian (shes from Holland) and they've bought and reno'd a Condo. I can see how happy and in love they are just by going to her Blog. But I'm plauged by thoughts like "If you wait another 5 years, maybe there Marridge will fail and she will come back" or "If she just understood how much you loved her".
She visits my Blog almost every day to read my posts, yet leves no comments. She even visited the very day she was set to Marry her BF (Wed resched due to fire dam to there Condo).
Am I nuts for hoping since she still checks how I'm doing she may still love for me, that her current BF was just Mr.Now not Mr.Right? Or is she just a concearned X
2006-09-17 14:43:16 · 11 answers · asked by cjmcneilcanada 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get over it
2006-09-17 14:44:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to get over a love like this, I should know. I was with someone for eight years and we broke up five years ago also. Our situations are similar. He met a girl two weeks before we broke up and married her a year later. So much for me. It was the best thing that happened to me. I met and married the man of my dreams and now have a wonderful family. It's heartbreaking, I know, I've been there. I've tried to kill myself for this person and then I realized that I need me, not him. When you figure yourself out, other things will come into play. You cannot get over it because you might never. What you can do is get well and find someone to love you unconditionally. And best of all, love yourself first. Hope this helps, sweetie. Take care.
2006-09-17 14:48:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you're feeling is normal, some piece of it will always be with you. But what you've got to do is move on. If you dwell on that situation and keep living in that moment, you'll miss what life has to offer now and in the future.
You need to keep from withdrawing into yourself and dwelling on old memories. Start creating new ones! If you don't feel you're ready to start dating yet, get yourself out there socially. Doing things with friends or joining groups where you will make friends.
If you really start getting depressed and down on yourself, VOLUNTEER for something in your community! This will take your focus off yourself, make you realize the needs of others and make you feel better about yourself with what you've done for others!
2006-09-17 14:52:51 · answer #3 · answered by Sideshow Bob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwww.... if you were her first love I'm sure she probably still thinks about you, and wonders what your lives would have been like.... Your not crazy wondering because like I said A first love is forever..... I'm speaking from expirience, when me and my fiance split up temporarily for a couple months and he was with another girl he still cared about me and wanted to be with me, and I remained single "Hoping that maybe someday he'd come back to me..... he did and we have a little girl and were due to have a little boy Oct 17.
Goodluck... seriously I hope it works out for you, and if it doesnt I hope you find someone else that will treat you well, and that you can give your heart too.
2006-09-17 14:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by jess_springfield_06 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she's just concerned for you as a friend. You should consider yourself lucky to have that, but do not try to interfere with her present relationship.
If you had a son or brother who was in an identical situation, what would you advise them to do? Think about that, it's a good way to separate yourself from your own situation and look at it dispassionately.
Then cut yourself loose and move on.
2006-09-17 14:47:31 · answer #5 · answered by My Evil Twin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she still has warm feeling for you, but if you can't get past your "what if"s, you'll probably destroy the friendship you have. You need to make a firm decision to be her friend and nothing more, and move on. It's hard, but you'll regret it for a long time if you don't.
2006-09-17 14:48:26 · answer #6 · answered by jss1701 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend develop into on probation he calls me in the destiny cryn sayn we cant communicate nomore because i in basic terms were given placed on his no contact record(meaning if he talks to me and receives stuck then he will bypass again to penal complicated) after really a lot a week he were given inebriated and referred to as me and ended up spilling the reality and the reality develop into that i develop into under no circumstances on his no contact record and it develop into all a lie, i forgave him and were nonetheless at the same time.
2016-11-27 20:57:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, she checks on you because she hears from people how depressed you are that you've broken up. GET OVER IT. Find someone new to fall in love with. Quit acting stupid over this...
2006-09-17 14:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by cbjohns_1998 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am glad you are better but you shouldn't get depressed again thinking of her. You take it one day at a time and you will find love again.
2006-09-17 14:45:59 · answer #9 · answered by Farmgirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well she got away...should make it a little easier
2006-09-17 14:44:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋