This is REALLY long, but I would really really, greatly appreciate an honest answer, thanks!?

Question

This girl and me were really close, we would stay up till 12 in the mornin talkin sometime, now that mite not be alot, but it is for her, she is homeschooled, I go to public school. Well I asked her to the movies, and she said Idk maybe , and REALLy backed off, she seemed nervous around me, I thought she just didnt wanna hurt my feelings, but she told her friends, she just wants to see if I can stick with her. Well we got further and further apart, until I couldnt stand it anymore and I emailed her, spilled my guts, and asked her to be brutally honest on how she fealt about me, heres what she said

well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later

Now, When I read that two things come to mind. One, that she is just trying to be nice. But on the other hand, she is just scared, because she has never had a bf b4, and weve been friends since age 7.

But now she seems more comfortable around me, like now she talks more, and seems more comfortable, but then she'll seem like she wants me, I can tell by the way she looks, and the way she acts, she just seems really sad, and down,

Oh yeah, and she told her mom , that she is just really really scared, and that she does like me, but she told her friends she just dont want to hurt my feelings, now her and her mom are really close, but so are her and her friends, Do you think she likes me, or is just letting me down easy?

And I am respecting her wishes, I emailed her and told her that I respect her decision, and we havent talked about it since.

But I really really do care for her, I wake up and she's the first thing I think about, I go to sleep and Fall asleep thinking about her. I mean I know I'm only 15, but I really do love her, and would do anything in this world to be with her. I've tried moving on, I've been trying to do that, but I just can't. Even though I am am guy, yes I have cried numerous time for her, and about her. I mean, I'm not ugly, I'm fit, and I'm not a big geek or anything, so what gives? I really do love her, what should I do?

Answer 1

First of all, bottomline, if she were truely head over heels about you, she wouldn't give you mixed signals. 2nd of all, whether she's playing mind games or just plain confused, either way she doesn't seem like an ideal person to get into a relationship with. (I am not saying she's not likeable. I'm sure what you see in her that makes you attracted to her are real.) My thoughts are continue being her friend (if you can. But if it's too much pain to be around her and not able to get with her then you need to stay away so you can heal), and go meet other girls. Do not let her play with your emotions and get away with it by using her confusion as an excuse. When she is 100% sure she is ready to be with you, let her tell you she's ready then get together with her. Until then, be your own man. It might not seem this way but when you talk to more girls and enjoy more time spent with them, you will not feel as painful as you are now.

Answer 2

It's too bad that it didn't work out when you took the chance and told her your true feelings that you do want to be with her, but she has also had to be true to you and told you her feelings. If she does really like you why would she continue to plea her wishes to just be friends. At this time maybe that's what you need to do, your only 15 not like waiting is going to be all that hard for you. I feel really bad for you kid, and I'm trying to some how help you but your situation at this moment there isn't much you can do. Just continue to respect her wishes, and be her good friend like you were before...in time maybe she'll be ready for something more. Your obviously special to her that much I can see and that's probably why she don't want to chance it...the posibility of losing you all together. Good luck kid, love is tough hope that your ending is a good one.

Answer 3

don't listen to what her friends say and the things that u hear. listen to her....that is the only way u will know.....if she just wants to be ur friend then u have to accept that. if she is scared then u need to make her feel like she doesn't need to be scared. all in all u will never know what she is thinking b/c u are 2 different ppl. stay by her side and tell her how u feel again. if she still acts scared then don't push her. maybe she really just does think of u as a friend and if u hound her she won't like u as a friend anymore.....good luck.

Answer 4

lok she is playing with your emotions here and that is not fair to you. I know how it feels trust me but you need to move on you bguys are freinds and she barlkey makes time for you now imagnine when you guys are going out , trust me the best thing is to get over her even though your heart tells you diffrent, at the end you will get hurt and it is not wrth it stop crying over her you desirve better she is only using you she has you like back up when no guy likes her she comes crawling back to you, I don't know her but you have to get over her and just be friends and thats all cuz she is playoing with your heart and that is not cool. tell her you want to be friends nothing elses another girl will come, when youmleast expect it she will be there, you still have your whole life ahead of you even though it does not seem that way . you will get over her like i had to get over someone. yeah it is hard but you can do it. oo another thing don't llok for another girl be patiene cuz the least thing a girl wants to be is a rebound! good luck

Answer 5

my advice would usually be move on. but i think if you like her that much you should call her.

only once. if she does not pick up do not call back that would definately make you look desperate. and girls usually dont like guys who are desperate. dont call back that same night

but if she picks up. why dont you tell her exactly what your thinking. you could probably even read her what you just wrote. if she responds negatively like, "i told you im just want to be friends" then i would give up as harsh as that sounds.

and if she responds positively like, "i didnt know thats how you were feeling" or something like that. go with it. and just ask her on a date from there.

but honestly. i would be concerned that i would loose a good friend if our relationship got more serious, and we decided that it was not working. i wouldent want that. so maybe you should just ask her to think about the situation. and if she wants to be "just friends" continue to talk to her and act natural. eventually things will get back to normal but if they dont, you cant say that you didnt try.


hope everything goes well

Answer 6

Wow, that's a pretty big situation for being only 15. I would just let the situation play out on its own and see what happens.

Answer 7

O man that sucks. U no what maybe uve been to nice with her. Normaly I wouldent say that but this one sonds like thats exactly what she needs. Say look I like, wich u alrady no but u send me mixed signals, so can u just tell me wat the hell it is that u want so u dont lead me on and play with my heart, if u want me then whats the problem? and if u dont want to be with me then just tell me so we can be freinds and I can move on, but dont give me this back and forth stuff ok, just be honest. U really gotta put it out there like that ok hoped I helped.

Answer 8

make her jelous. you are spending all this energy on her if you start talking to someone else she'll be like wait i thought he had a thing w/ ME and she tottaly go for you.

Answer 9

Show her to love like she's never been hurt.

Answer 10

send her a lovely greeting card,tell her how u feel,and mail it.