is 18 to young to be having a baby if thats really what you want?

Answer 1

having a baby is like being grounded for the rest of your life! You will not believe the responsibility that is involved. Dont think you can do it with no dad it is one tough job!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

NO, that is, if you can financially support the baby without leeching from the government or other people.

You must consider, that you want what is best for your baby. You need to already have established your life first, before bringing a baby into an unfinished situation.

If you are married with a husband that can support a family on a single income. You can do it! Being a mom and a homemaker is great, but can you do that?

At 18, the best job that you can get is local stores and probably min. wage. All of your hours will be sucked up and no time for baby and the expenses of properly caring for the baby.

Answer 3

I suppose if you're ready then you're ready. My parents were married at 18 and had me at 19. They had no time together before having kids. Now they are retired and dad up and left mom for another woman. I started dating my husband in 94. We married in 96. We didn't have our first child until 2000. I was 25.

Sure, I could have had a child at 18. I was already a nanny and worked in daycare. I was responsible enough. But I wanted the time for myself. I am so grateful that my husband and I had six years together before adding children into the mix. We established a strong foundation as a couple before adding the stress (and joys) of being parents. Personally, I feel that is important. I also think that waiting until I was older and had more life experience helped me to be a better and more patient parent.

Answer 4

OK...this is a painfully honest answer.

Yes. What is the rush? You haven't even become the person you're going to be yet. You haven't gotten all the "fun" out of the way yet. You can't be a good parent if you're still out there having all that "fun." What will you do when your friends call to go out to a party or bar or show and you can't go because you have to be mommy to a baby?

And how financially prepared are you? You don't have to be rich, but it's unfair to EVERYONE to expect others to support you and your kids. Have you thought beyond what YOU want and thought about what kind of life this child will have?

Their needs should be more important than yours. These things are tough. You need to be prepared to handle them. Most of the time when young kids become parents, they bow out and blow off most of the parenting onto their own parents, who by all rights should be the GRANDPARENTS, not parents. Please reconsider. Wait. Live a little, then become a parent. It will be a more pleasant experience for all.

Answer 5

Your body may be able to have a baby, but your life is probably not ready to. Are you married? Do you have a steady income of AT LEAST $40,000 on your own? Do you already have a house or apartment of your own? Do you have medical insurance? Do you have a car that's paid for, and dependable for the next 3-5 years? Are you able to afford day care that will cost you over $500 a month?

Having a baby is a strain on a happy, financially stable couple. I know - we did it. But we both had good jobs, and were able to cope. If you aren't married, you have a very good chance of putting yourself below the poverty line. Do you want to raise your baby in an environment where you have to choose whether to pay the rent or be able to afford food for him/her? Do you want to live with your parents for the next 10 years? Do you want to basically be grounded for the next 15 years? Think long and hard about this decision. It will affect you for the rest of your life. Yes, people have done it, and got through it. Very few would recommend it, I bet.

My advice is to wait, go to college, get a good job, get married, and have a baby in 8-10 years. Do all that, and you'll be in a much better position to raise a happy, healthy, well-adjusted child.

Answer 6

No, just be sure you know what all goes into becoming a mother. This will mean you will be put at least second all the time, you are responsible for another persons life. It's major, just be prepared. I hope you at least have a steady boyfriend because it will be hard on your own. I am a mother of two and had my first at 18 so it can be done. You can be a great parent, just make sure you are ready. Good Luck! O and by the way I in no way regret having my children young, I love the fact that I can run with them and play with out being tired all the time. I love that I am young and can relate to alot of things my daughters are going through as young girls. Actually my husband and I are trying for our third and I am a stay at home mom and have been for 8yrs. it can be done, I'm not saying it's easy but your kids are worth all the work it takes.

Answer 7

if it's really what you want go for it, but as a mom that had a kid at 18 i wish i would of waited longer. It's really nice to have your freedom and then when you turn 21 you don't need a babysitter. Not that drinking is more important. Also take time to go on vacation, hang out with your friend, save up money, college, etc... I had a kid at 18 and was with the guy for 4 yrs before I got pregnant and now I'm a single mom that works 6 days a week to support my daughter. It's tough, but I love her with all my heart.

Answer 8

That is very young--but if you are already pregnant, you can do it! There are resources to help you and hopefully you have family to support you. But if you are just considering getting pregnant--it would be better to wait...I had my first baby at 23 and THAT seemed young--I was pretty clueless. And now he is a teenager and I still feel too young to have a child that old!
good luck!

Answer 9

Yes 18 is too young for you especially since you already have a 3 year old, according to your earlier questions on yahoo. Teen years are years that you should use to develop and grow as a person & complete an education. Then you should wait until you are involved with a special person who is equally committed to the idea of parenthood. It's a big decision so I recommend you wait before you have more children because that would be better for you as well as better for your future children because you will be able to provide for them better. Good Luck.

Answer 10

You have to think about WHY you want to have a baby. If it's for the same reason that you want a puppy, then yes, it is too young. You also have to evaluate what you'll get out of being a mommy verses what you'll have to give up.
I got pregnant at 18 and had my daughter at 19, I had wanted a child for a few years (sounds crazy, I know). I've never been very social and don't like to party, so I didn't have anything to lose and every thing to gain. I've never regretted or resented being a mother. She is the best thing that has (and will) ever happened to me.

Answer 11

Just because you want to doesn't make it right. Babies are not toys.
Can you afford to take care of a baby? At 18, are you in college, or do you already have a job that pays well?
You have plenty of time. Talk to a financial adviser of some sort before having a baby.