my ex always calle me ugly when mad, my kids too.They told me dad was getting a pretty girlfriend.(sniff) i feel so sad, i wish i have a boyfriend,but men i like don't like me.How can i increase my self-esteem? people tell me to love myself, i do BUTwhen i hear people telling i'm ugly ,i feel so down.Some people tell me in a playful way, but it hurts.Can u help ?PLEASE i really appreciate it.
2006-09-17 14:11:39 · 8 answers · asked by sad f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont take wut anyone says seriously .. beleive that u are pretty within .. everyday look in the mirror and say to urself that u are pretty .. and thank god that u have everything because somepeople are blind and def or dont have legs and arms etc .. be thankful for wut u have .. there is always someone who is going through worse times than u!
2006-09-17 14:15:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that people are right about, believing in yourself. Maybe you need a makeover or a wardrobe change. I know that sounds really "plastic" or just stupid because you must be like...how will a wardrobe change help me? But I think sometimes what you wear can affect your mood. Other than that, if you are a beautiful person inside that is all that matters, I mean there will be someone out there who will not only value you for your looks but for who you are. So what if your husband has a "pretty new girlfriend"? Maybe they deserve eachother for being so ******* stupid and having so much vanity. Now when it comes to your kids, you need to show them how to respect you, you're the one that busts your *** to raise them there is no way in hell that you should tolerate them calling you ugly whether it is true or not. I also think that maybe you should go see a psychologist or get some counseling so that you could learn how to love yourself. Good luck with everything and remember that when everyone thinks that you are ugly, the Lord will always see you as a precious gem in his eyes.
2006-09-17 14:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Bank$ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if what your having is depression, but you might want to think about it. If you have been trying to help yourself for a long time it is a possibility. There is no way to feel better until you believe it yourself. Try to think about it in a different perspective. Do not think how bad your life is. Instead try to think positively. You have a life and kids. Why focus so much on how you look. If you want some who will love you act yourself. If they really love you they will come now when you act yourself. However, DO NOT act sad and say how sad you are all the time because guys don't really deal with that kind of stuff. Unless it is really a problem, don't whine. If it is depression get help.
Good Luck.
Remember: you are not ugly
2006-09-17 14:18:39 · answer #3 · answered by neonpony1919 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All u need to do is to change everything about u. U should go to a friends house to help u with ur make-up and stuff. Also go shopping for sexy clothes so guys can notice u. If a guy calls u ugly don't listen to them. If they do call u that they r ugly themselves. Everyone is beautiful in there own way. Don't let them put u down. Just say to urself in the mirror everyday that u r beautiful. That what helped me and now i am so popular with not just the guys, but i have a lot of friends. If u need to talk more contact me.
2006-09-17 14:18:37 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, sis, stop listening to everybody else.
DUMP the ex, and insist that your children speak politely to you. Always speak politely to them.
What do YOU think about the way that you look? If there are things that YOU would like to change, to feel better about yourself, and to be more confident - change them!
Keep yourself clean, and well-groomed, wear the nicest (clean) clothes that you have or can get.
Ugly is a state of mind.
Confidence, humor, kindness, and friendliness are attractive.
STOP seeking the approval of others to feel OK about yourself! These people want to hurt you, and they have learned which buttons to push to do it!
My ex used to tell me that I was stupid (I'm not) (I'm certainly not the brightest person who ever lived, but I am NOT stupid!), ugly, clumsy, etc. When I realized that I was starting to wonder if he might be right - I knew it was time to GET OUT!
Find people who treat you well, and speak kindly to you! This is how you will learn to love yourself.
Once you become accustomed to being treated well, and spoken to politely, you will no longer be willing to accept rudeness and bad treatment from others.
Focus on others, not yourself. It will work wonders for you.
Self-pity is NEVER attractive.
Best of luck to you!
2006-09-17 14:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by zen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, the only opinion that really counts is yours. Period. Now after that, look in the mirror and be honest. Are you doing your best with what you have? If you are then don't worry. If there's room for improvement do what you can. Remember these two things: confidence is a real turn on, and it's what's on the inside that counts. Don't let anyone play anymore stupid head games with you, lift up your head and be proud!
2006-09-17 14:19:17 · answer #6 · answered by Blue_eyed_Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your ex said you was ugly cause hes your ex. and hes a guy so if ya look so bad why he marry you? other than your personality. and your kids? why you let them talk to u like that??? fuvking society today says you have to look like a fuvking supermodel and you dont!!
2006-09-17 14:15:30 · answer #7 · answered by Dimond eyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember this....
What you feel is what you are and what you are is beautiful...
(goo goo dolls)
BUT.....very true. Beauty comes from within. Don't listen to others, they are just saying that to hurt you or put you down.
I was always taught that true beauty comes from the inside.
HUGS
2006-09-17 14:15:46 · answer #8 · answered by Golden Hair 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋