This girl and me were really close, we would stay up till 12 in the mornin talkin sometime, now that mite not be alot, but it is for her, she is homeschooled, I go to public school. Well I asked her to the movies, and she said Idk maybe , and REALLy backed off, she seemed nervous around me, I thought she just didnt wanna hurt my feelings, but she told her friends, she just wants to see if I can stick with her. Well we got further and further apart, until I couldnt stand it anymore and I emailed her, spilled my guts, and asked her to be brutally honest on how she fealt about me, heres what she said
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later
Now, When I read that two things come to mind. One, that she is just trying to be nice. But on the other hand, she is just scared, because she has never had a bf b4, and weve been friends since age 7.
But now she seems more comfortable around me, like now she talks more, and seems more comfortable, but then she'll seem like she wants me, I can tell by the way she looks, and the way she acts, she just seems really sad, and down,
Oh yeah, and she told her mom , that she is just really really scared, and that she does like me, but she told her friends she just dont want to hurt my feelings, now her and her mom are really close, but so are her and her friends, Do you think she likes me, or is just letting me down easy?
And I am respecting her wishes, I emailed her and told her that I respect her decision, and we havent talked about it since.
But I really really do care for her, I wake up and she's the first thing I think about, I go to sleep and Fall asleep thinking about her. I mean I know I'm only 15, but I really do love her, and would do anything in this world to be with her. I've tried moving on, I've been trying to do that, but I just can't. Even though I am am guy, yes I have cried numerous time for her, and about her. I mean, I'm not ugly, I'm fit, and I'm not a big geek or anything, so what gives? I really do love her, what should I do?
2006-09-17 13:55:52 · 19 answers · asked by how many 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Aww sorry hon but sounds to me like she just is not intrested in you and i know it will hurt for awhile but put some space between ya'll and try finding someone else that will love you back... Good Luck
2006-09-17 14:00:19 · answer #1 · answered by Amy M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK she likes u but she's afraid she never had a bf before n probably she thinks if it doesn't work u guys will stop being friends.
My advice just let her feel more confident 4 now act normal at some point she wont take the pressure and she'll tell u what's going on in her heart and mind.Good Luck Mua..
2006-09-17 21:05:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lok she is playing with your emotions here and that is not fair to you. I know how it feels trust me but you need to move on you bguys are freinds and she barlkey makes time for you now imagnine when you guys are going out , trust me the best thing is to get over her even though your heart tells you diffrent, at the end you will get hurt and it is not wrth it stop crying over her you desirve better she is only using you she has you like back up when no guy likes her she comes crawling back to you, I don't know her but you have to get over her and just be friends and thats all cuz she is playoing with your heart and that is not cool. tell her you want to be friends nothing elses another girl will come, when youmleast expect it she will be there, you still have your whole life ahead of you even though it does not seem that way . you will get over her like i had to get over someone. yeah it is hard but you can do it. oo another thing don't llok for another girl be patiene cuz the least thing a girl wants to be is a rebound! good luck
man you asked this question 93 times! that is crazy one of many reasons you should get over her! she is making you crazy! this is gone way to far !
2006-09-20 12:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by hey!!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Posting all this stuff about her on the internet is probably not going to help your position here.
Girls don't make sense, and they can't make up their minds about what they want. It's just one of those sad facts of life. It's too soon to tell if anything will come of this or not.
Whether you can believe it or not, I can guarantee you this won't seem like such a big deal 10 years from now.
2006-09-17 21:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by I Know Nuttin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow your right way long! lol and really deep! Since im a girl this is how i take it.... i think that she likes you but she also has a great friendship with you. She dosnt want to 'f things up. We all know that once you break up its hard to be friends, and a friendship after a break up rarely works unless you try really hard. So basicially i think that she wants to be more then friends but she is afraid of what might happen and probable will happen if/when you two break up. And she values your friendship too much to gamble with it!
2006-09-17 21:05:57 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Sunshine ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will not like the answer, but the best advice I can give is to move on. Years from now, you will be glad you did... She's just trying to let you down easy, because you are friends and are not likely to ever be anything more.
2006-09-17 21:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep being her friend. Be patient. I know at age 15 it seems like a few months is forever, but if it's meant to be, it will happen for you.
The biggest thing is to prove that you love her first and last as a friend.
2006-09-17 21:00:48 · answer #7 · answered by HelpfulHanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is tricky because if she only truly wants freindship u could cause problems if u tell her how u feel!i would talk to her and tell her something like "i know u said u just wanted to b freinds and i dont want to do anything to hurt our freindship but i have to tell u i have feeling deeper than freindship and i wanted to ask u if u feel the same." well something along those lines u can probably think of something better but u get the sugestion
2006-09-17 21:03:29 · answer #8 · answered by eddie w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are solidly in the friend zone and that's just the way it is. Time to move on and get a girlfriend instead of a friend that is a girl
2006-09-17 21:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by rwl_is_taken 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a stupid question if you really love here why are you trying to rush things? It sounds like you are already getting to spend time with here and the more time you spend with here the more time she has time to become more comfortable around you. to rush might just scare here away.
2006-09-17 21:10:23 · answer #10 · answered by Noel L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋