weve had sex before but he would wear it. i shurged it off. but now im scared i might get pregnet next time? ill still have the sex even if he wont... because i cant live without it. i love him. also he says its ichy and uncomfy.
2006-09-17 13:14:57 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
-Tell him to or just tell him that you can't. That boy won't be around if you get pregnant, so I'd be firm about this. Otherwise, look into alternate forms of birth control. Go to birthcontrol.com
2006-09-17 13:17:46 · answer #1 · answered by IMHO 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a couple options you can try. Your first option is to let him know that you love him and love having sex with him, but that you wont have sex with him until he starts wearing a condom. You can let him know that you're afraid of getting pregnant and your just not ready to be a mother yet. Ask him...If he's ready to be a father? because if you become pregnant he will be just as responsible in caring for that child as you are. You should be emotionally and financially ready to have a child. These are just somethings that you can bring to his attention. It might help him get into gear in using a condom. There are many different types of condoms and he may find one that is not Itchy and is comfortable. If he wants to have sexual relations with you he also has to take responsibility. Your second option is to use an I.U.D. or go on the pill or another form of contraceptive. There is a saying "If you play with fire, you'll eventually get burnt." In your case, if you don't use some form of contraceptive, you may end up being pregnant. I wish you luck!
2006-09-17 13:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by Lei-Loo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try some different condom brands (there are a lot), and go on birth control. If you don't want to get pregnant, you have to lay down the law and say no sex if he doesn't wear a condom. Sex is great, I agree, but are you okay with getting pregnant? In that sense also, he would be extremely irresponsible if he refuses to wear a condom. If you get pregnant, the baby is in YOUR body, and that is something you will have to deal with (whether that's getting an abortion or giving birth to the baby). Are you prepared to handle it if you get pregnant?
2006-09-17 13:23:59 · answer #3 · answered by Matichel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah well having a baby is alot worse than being itchy and uncomfortable. There is not point in running the risk of getting pregnant or getting STD's for that matter. You have to be able to respect yourself enough to say that you will not have sex unless he wears on. It might be itchy and uncomfy but its better than not getting any at all right. And besides the responsibility of raising a child will be very uncomfortable for you and him both, if he hangs around to do it.
2006-09-17 13:18:24 · answer #4 · answered by wunluv06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way in heck that I'm having sex with ANYONE without protection these days...boyfriend or no boyfriend. There are too many risks involved. Why doesn't he want to wear a condom? Most guys don't mind because they want to play it safe, too. Your situation sounds kind of fishy. I would tell him, "No glove, no love", and if he gets all mad, then ask "What's the big deal? Why don't you want to wear one?" Forget itchy and uncomfy.....safety matters most.
2006-09-17 13:18:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright, look, cliche it may be, but if he loves you in return, he should respect your wishes to have protection. Either that, or he needs to calm himself down and back off of you. >.<
I know it's cheesy, but of course, it's always best to wait until marriage for all of that stuff...that way, if pregnancy becomes an issue, it's not a big deal: you'll be expanding on a family.
Obviously, it may be a TAD late for that, so if you're gonna have sex, make sure the both of you have been tested for HIV/AIDS.
If he's not wanting to practice safe sex, then it may be time for a new partner.
Till next time,
Raven
2006-09-17 13:25:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't matter if it is uncomfy or not, he should wear one if you are scared to be pregnant. Its about YOU not him when it comes to carrying that baby for 9 months. You need self control, just as much as he does; when it comes to protection. And if he loved you then he would wear one to make you happy. If you give in then you might as well get ready for a baby.
2006-09-17 13:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I'll still have the sex even if he won't."
Honestly...then don't bother asking this question. The only way you're going to get him to wear it, is to tell him you won't have sex with him otherwise. And even then, he'll say "fine." Sticking to your guns after saying it is the only thing that is going to work.
How old are you anyway? It is not something to just shrug off. Getting pregnant when you aren't ready for it can ruin your life. I guarantee you it is not worth it.
2006-09-17 13:18:21 · answer #8 · answered by abbya11111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny, give me a break. That is your body and health. It is sex, You actually can live without it and if the loser won't use a condom then don't have sex with him . How many other woman has he done this with and how many other std's has he contracted from others. Get real and be a responsible woman. If your so afraid of getting pregnant then talk to your doctor about birth control. If your having sex then you need to be mature and responsible. PLEASE!!!!
2006-09-17 13:19:36 · answer #9 · answered by daisygirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well why ask him to wear a condom if you'll **** him with out it. If it even matters to you then you'll refuse to have sex with him till he wears one. Besides that if you are worried about getting pregnant then duh get on the pill. If you take it religiously.. every day at a similar time then you are in control of getting pregnant or not. Oh and yes for the record you can live with out sex. it is not required to sustain individual life.
2006-09-17 13:19:09 · answer #10 · answered by poof10958 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were him id rather a itchy uncomfy condom than a child at the wrong time in my life tell him to try different sizes and brands thats probably the problem
2006-09-17 13:17:53 · answer #11 · answered by Brendan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋