now everyone in my family and my friends are trying to set me up. im 22 was in a 5 yr relationship then left him, dated last bf for a 1 and 1/2 then left him. im the mean time i realize i have no interest in dating right now. i am trying to get my life back together and jut want to hang out. right now it doesnt really need to be with a guy. how do i let everyone know i appericate their thought but im cool with being on my own right now and actually have them listen to me, since i have said those excat words before???
2006-09-17 13:07:56 · 21 answers · asked by rollieoolie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound smart, mature and resonable. They sound like they are worried and trying to buy you a new puppy. At this point, blunt and polite is all you have left. "No. I am too busy to date right now" and no further discussion is about all you have left, right? Even will-meaning people can wear on your nerves when they won't take no for an answer. I think if you just keep saying flat no, then their attempts will soon diminish. Sure hope so! Best of luck learning to love you for awhile!
2006-09-17 13:14:43 · answer #1 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is keep telling them no and don't except the dates they try to set you up with, you have a lot of people around you that think their lives are not complete with out a mate and that is not really true. So keep telling the 2 females and the male in your life who is tiring to fix you up all the time to stop. Eventually they will get the point.
2006-09-17 13:23:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so good to hear someone say that they would prefer to be on their own. So many questions imply that a person is not complete unless they are in a relationship and this kind of thinking has obviously taken hold of your family and friends. If you are never on your own you can lose your sense of self. Being on your own for a while is just what you need right now. Be clear and be consistent and don 't be afraid of repeating yourself. Hopefully, they will get bored asking you before you get bored answering them.
2006-09-17 13:15:51 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you have to understand that family just tries to help because they love you. And yes, they can get annoying, they do get annoying, but they are family. I would just sit them all down and let them know how much you love them and you understand they are trying to hook you up because they don't like to see you depressed, but that you are doing OK without a guy in your life right now, also let them know that if you do feel bad you'll let them know, everyone likes to feel useful! any way, good luck with your family and with your love life and don't forget don't let anyone force you into something you don't want to do.
2006-09-17 13:15:39 · answer #4 · answered by garnet-dagger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say smile and nod, and basically humor them. They are trying to help, but when they actually try to pin you down to do out with a certain person, weasel out of it. Eventually they will notice that you keep turning everyone down, and they will ask you why. Then, when you really have their attention, you can gently remind them that you had told them you did not feel ready to date and them had not listened, so you just kept saying no. I know it's probably annoying, but at least you have so many people concerned about you and trying to actively help you. Not all of us are quite that lucky.
2006-09-17 13:13:00 · answer #5 · answered by blackanubis9 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just have them all together at a dinner one night and tell them again. Maybe with them all being together at one place and you letting them know why they are really there might help them understand that you are serious about not dating at this time.
2006-09-17 13:16:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest tell them thank you for all your help in trying to hook me up with people but at this period in my life I'm not ready for another relationship let them know that you are trying to focus on you and you are using this time for reflection and you need to be alone until you are ready to get back into the game and you are happy with just being by yourself and hope this helps and good luck
2006-09-17 13:15:11 · answer #7 · answered by Rivelle W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just look them in the eye, and tell them that right now, dating doesn't interest you because your healing, and going to look slowly for Mr. Right!
2006-09-17 13:10:06 · answer #8 · answered by the_kiss_of_eve 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get angry and tell them straight up that if they care about you they need to let you move at your own pace and if you want their help looking for a guy you will ask but until then to keep their prospects just that their prospects. it only works if your mad for some reason people listen better when your angry
2006-09-17 13:13:21 · answer #9 · answered by timothy f 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Like you said you've said THE words before. Time for you to say nothing more than NO, THANK YOU, MAYBE NEXT TIME.
2006-09-17 13:10:39 · answer #10 · answered by Mary Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋