ok so me and my practically bf don't talk as much as we use to and hes in a band so hes gone most of the time and I feel like he doesnt even care anymore about anything and it kinda pisses me off like I don't know if I should be mad at him but he is soo sweet when we met and now we barely talk and he doesnt act like he use to can you tell me whats going on with him?
2006-09-17 12:48:46 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have really learned from 2 marriages that when there is a major change or distance changes and they dont open up to you anymore ,both of mine was drugs and cheating ,I hope this is not the case for you ,I dont understand why us women suffer in relationships so much while most men seem to care less about the feeling we have .I just before getting on here told my husband of 7 years that I dont like the distant feeling he goes oh its just you ,,,,Im sick of hering that ,so please guard your heart always never love so much you cant leave if you need to ,maybe I seem harsh about this but guys today cant stay the same as when you first meet them .good luck and be careful do some checking .see what he is into when gone away from you .my heart feels for yah .
2006-09-17 12:58:04 · answer #1 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your are ready to take the next step in a relationship but, he's not. He has had so many changes in his life lately that he is tiring to catch his breath. Give him time to catch up and it will be OK. Give it until January next year and I think you'll find a great difference. If you want to continue in this relationship you need to have patience with him, he will eventually come back to himself. If this behavior continues after Christmas talk to him about it, let him know what you feel and listen to how he feels and find a solution. But I think that the changes that are rapidly happening right now are causing the rift and the communication problems.
2006-09-17 20:07:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i played in a band for many years too. my gf of 8 years left me 2 months ago because she always said she was second priority to my guitar and the band. Whilst i knew she had issues with it i never thought she was close to the point of leaving me. I know how much i love her and i would have made changes to accomodate her needs and save our relationship. So I suppose what i am saying is that if this relationship is worth saving and you still love this guy talk to him and let him know your concerns and give him the chance to make changes. You never know, you may be suprised, I know I would have before losing my girl.
2006-09-17 19:56:39 · answer #3 · answered by whitey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok listen im in a death metal band myself and sometimes haveing a gf around when you practice is kinda hard to do i dont understand it but it works that way now if hes not practiceing and he still shows you no attention find out why is he playing diffrent venues and if so is he trying to lay other groupies did he start drinking alot more are u trying to come in between his band cause if so that will do it if not just chill and see how it rides out if it keeps up then u have to move on but remember to just keep rocking on good luck girl MINUS HUMAN out
2006-09-17 20:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by kalamorm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go up and confront him about how you feel about his neglection towards you. Maybe he has a lot on his mind (when I say a lot I don't mean another girl.), or problems that occupy his thoughts. When you talk to him, don't be too straight forward, because you don't know the reason why he's doing this to you. Just be gentle, sweet, and understanding. He'll tell you what's on his mind, don't worry.
2006-09-17 19:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by forest_without_sounds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well lately hes probably been busy. Try giving him a call sometime and just check in. But if he says he can't talk for long...to him music is more important than you.
2006-09-17 19:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him whats wrong. Let him know that things between u guys are not the same. Find a way to compromise each so that u will alsways agree with each other. Let him know how u feel.
2006-09-17 19:51:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like he's putting the band before u and thats not right u should really talk to him and see were your relationship is right now or if wants to continue it or spend all his time with his band
2006-09-17 19:53:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a guy gets like this when's he totally focused on stuff. it happens to all of us. what you need to do is just simply talk to him about how you miss him when he's gone, dont nag though. your relationship is just getting comfortable and he needs to realize that you need that extra affection when he's gone. so remind him to call everynow and then.
2006-09-17 19:52:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you want to spend more time together and just hang out and talk. he's probably feeling the strain with it too.
2006-09-17 19:51:11 · answer #10 · answered by sweets 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋