i am in love with a man who says he loves me also which i believe but he has this wall up that i am so sick of trying to break down and every time i am ready to give up he always says he realizes i am fading away but yet he goes back to his same old routine instead of trying to be more considerate he is pushing me away i am so tired of trying to show him i am being real what should i do
2006-09-17 12:29:18 · 9 answers · asked by icandi22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm like your boyfriend, only I'm a girl. I have a wall that's tall and thick, and it's hard to get through. I don't like it, and I try hard to make it go away, but it takes a lot of work. If you really love him, and he loves you, talk honestly about how it frustrates you, and work hard, and be patient about either knocking it down, or climbing over it!
2006-09-17 12:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by the_kiss_of_eve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are the only one giving. That will never work, unless you enjoy being a doormat. You can give until you turn blue, but if he isn't going to do anything in return, you can't make him. Get out, before he sucks the life out of you.
2006-09-17 19:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by from HJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We're both in the same situation. I think its time to move on. Don't waste too much time with the guys who just want to take us for granted. The more you show him how sincere you are in the relationship, the more emotional abuse you are getting from him because he knows your weakness. End it up, find someone else. It his lost.
2006-09-17 19:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by asian_gal_from_socal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs motivation from you. he is not used to being close to someone or he has been hurt and you don't know it. talk to him again and try to get him to open up .if he doesn't then tell him you are done with trying.
2006-09-17 19:34:21 · answer #4 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa Nellie!
If you can't get him to change now, please don't expect him to change after you're married ( if that's in the works!) it will be worse.
Get couples counseling NOW, or walk away. It's NOT going to work. He will ruin you emotionally.
2006-09-17 19:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow... I'm in the same situation (but I live with the guy!).. I'd like to see some answers...
2006-09-17 19:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by InnerBeauty28 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boys are tricky, i think this guy is naturally shy. and some guys have problems with relationships
2006-09-17 19:34:14 · answer #7 · answered by Paul P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him how you feel and not us.
2006-09-17 19:34:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe because he has his doubts, insecurity......ect
2006-09-17 19:32:35 · answer #9 · answered by imHereAskMe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋