I have been in and out of court with her mother.She is a good mother;her and I just never could see eye to eye.Her man she has been with since we broke up.Has raised my daughter."he is a good dad,I just wanna smack him lol...just kidding" The point is I pay my support.It has been an up hill battle.I do not want to confuse my baby.
Keep in mind I have several other children that are home with me.They need me, and my emotion as well.Should I continue to fight,or should I let her go.It is real hard when I see a movie with Father and daughter reunions and so forth.
In her mothers defense I was a real serious jerk back then.I worked long hours yada,yada,yada......I am a good father now.Is the best thing I can do for her just walk away,or fight for my legal rights...I am only concerned for my daughters best interest......
2006-09-17 12:22:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know that it is hard, but don't sever your rights. Your daughter has a right to know you, even if you have not been able to excercise that right, leave the door open. Your daughter should have an opportunity to know you, not other people' opinions of you. Severing your rights may sound like the kind thing to do, just cut it off, you know, and let her grow up with her Mom and the Mom's new man as dad -- but, he is not her father. What will happen later when she finds out you let your parental rights go? Unless it is explained gently and carefully, she may worry that you did not want her, or did not love her, and i am sure that is not true. Even if great care is taken, she may still worry about why you did it, and that would be a hard wound to heal. I know it's hard, and her mother may never fully trust you again, but you can hold a trust for your daughter by simply holding on and not giving up hope.
2006-09-17 12:34:43 · answer #1 · answered by M H S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your ex-wife getting married to this man, and has he expressed a desire to adopt your daughter? Does he make enough money to replace the child support you pay? If yes, I think you should give serious thought to terminating your parental rights after they're married.
However, if this is not the case, your terminating your rights only takes benefits away from your daughter. Like your money. I'm sure you know that you should be making every effort to have contact with your daughter. It sounds like you think that giving to your daughter will take away from your other children. This is so sad. Why would you even have more children if you can't give enough time to the child you already had? If you really really care about your daughter's best interest, you'll start being a dad to her. Unless this other man really has the willingness and resources to take care of her, and is marrying your ex.
2006-09-17 19:34:37 · answer #2 · answered by Marcella S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given the circumstances, I think trying to enforce your legal rights would further alienate her.
Is your daughter the youngest of the children and is that why she went to live with her mother? How old is she?
I suggest you try to contact her in a low-key manner, say with cards at Halloween, Christmas, Valentine's Day, Easter, her own birthday, containing simple, uncomplicated messages.
Be patient and give her time. As she matures, I think she'll want to get to know her real dad. I'm a single dad myself who raised my own 2 boys (now 31 and 29) single-handedly since when they were 8 and 6 y.o.
You sound like a good man and a great dad. Hang in there. Cheers!
2006-09-17 19:43:36 · answer #3 · answered by zyabzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, that's a dilemma!..If you sever your rights...it may be something you regret for the rest of your life. I'm not trying to judge..and hopefully that others will do the same...we do not know the whole story. You just have to follow your heart....just do not disappear..always be there for her...even if your thousands of mile away(trust fund) something.Good Luck at whatever you decide
2006-09-17 19:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to love your daughter is to ensure she grows up in a loving home. Her needs supercede any need to gain an upper hand with your ex. Try to discuss giving up your rights with an understanding that your daughter may get to know you when you are both adult enough to handle it.
2006-09-17 19:31:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this ia a losing battle maybe You should send your daugther a letter or even better tell her in person how you feel about the situation and tell her that You will always be there if she needs You. Do that and I think no one can ask for anything more
2006-09-17 19:57:10 · answer #6 · answered by Bo V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the interest of one day she's going to want to know and see you i would say stick it out, keep fighting for her atleast she'll have that, "my dad tried everything he could" instead of "my dad walked away and didn't care"
2006-09-17 19:25:57 · answer #7 · answered by princesstheruler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say no, don't give up. it will only hurt your child in the end, to know that her dad gave up on wanting to see her and know her. you don't want her to end up hating you when she gets older. so if you don't give up, then once she does get older she will understand that it was her mother's fault she never knew you, and not yours
2006-09-17 19:29:26 · answer #8 · answered by becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never give up a kid, never
2006-09-17 19:24:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be a dad to her do not delay!!!!!!!
2006-09-17 19:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋