if u had a gf who was long distance, and u were helping her financially for ages rent and car and stuff but she was asking so much that u could see her so much and pressurising u to make it to get a house and be together and u really loved her to the point of obsession, and loosing her would seem umbearable what would u do
2006-09-17 11:50:17 · 21 answers · asked by peter jones 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your message is unclear, but it looks like she's wanting to get a house together? If you love her so much, and you've been together for "ages", why haven't you married her?
However, if she's the one avoiding you, then she's using you.
Also, obsession is not a good thing, and if you're truly feeling that way, you need to seek some counseling.
2006-09-17 12:08:55 · answer #1 · answered by ♫☼♥ ≈ Debbi ≈ ♥☼♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obsession??? That's not love, and neither is demanding that you make it all happen. Long distance relationships rarely work out as you don't really know someone till you live with them. If this is her "best foot foreward", you should run, not walk, screaming, in the opposite direction. Get some help for that obsession problem and find a nice girl close to home.
2006-09-17 19:10:12 · answer #2 · answered by Diane MSD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships should have a level of reciprocity and it seems to me that you are doing all the giving. Hold back from giving quite so much, to bring some balance into the situation. If this does not work, and take the pressure off, it might be a good idea to cut your losses, despite the pain, and move on.
Good luck!
2006-09-17 19:00:00 · answer #3 · answered by Curious Me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry bud, this is totally up to you, but women are always worth the effort, even if it's long-distance. If you think you could live with her for the rest of your life and have kids and die together, then buy a house. If what I've just said makes your colon loose with dread, then my friend, dump her and find the one who satisfies all your criteria. Then go gay.
PEACE!!!
2006-09-17 19:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by syrea6 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your being used she probably has some guy she is f***ing over their and who your helping support too. break up with her than change your number and all so you wont answer when she calls and fall back into her trap. im being serious too and truthful i know its hard to hear. i was in the same situation but with a guy cause well im a girl
2006-09-17 18:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by mk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find somebody close. With my past long dist relations. I was played. They can't see you. You can't see them they are doing what ever the hell they what. And the only way that she would love you is if she came and seen you. Thats what I think of it.
2006-09-17 18:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by agentsmith015 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
youre stupid.you are a money bag.do she come to visit you.she may have men at her place and in the car which everything is getting paid for by you.
2006-09-17 18:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be with her unless it's really love and you aren't getting used which it sounds like you're only being used.
2006-09-17 18:54:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear - you're being drained of your dosh. Tighten the purse strings and ditch the b*tch.
2006-09-17 18:56:29 · answer #9 · answered by Mum-Ra 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shes using you ,have some self respect,dump her,theres loads of nice girls out there !!
2006-09-17 18:54:38 · answer #10 · answered by Pat R 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋