What does a girlfriend do?

Question

I've been dating my boyfriend for about 3 months, I really like him, but he wants me to clean his house, do the dishes and such. We don't live together. Is this to much?

Answer 1

well yeah...but thats how all guys are, they want the women to do all the work..at least tell him how u feel and maybe he will understand..

Answer 2

Um. Yes. That is too much. It's okay to help him out, especially if you offer. And it's okay to do so if he asks you to once in awhile if--say--he has a big presentation or finals coming up. Unless you are practically living there (spending 5 or so nights a week there), you don't owe him anything and he is being unreasonable.

Look at it like this: imagine being married to him. He would expect you to do all the "woman's work." Clean, cook, watch the kids. At least, that's what it sounds like. Don't let him do this to you. If talking to him doesn't work--and I mean right away, and permanently--then it's time to dump his 1950s butt to the curb.

Answer 3

You should tell him to get off his lazy *** and to clean up his own mess. I could see if ye were living together and ye were both making a mess and he did his share of the cleaning, but since this isn't the case here, then no, you should not clean up after him. Unless you really want to for some reason.

Answer 4

hell yes you both have not been going out for 1 year as yet
tell him no
you can cook for him once in a while like every 4 months but nothing more
if you do he will think that you will do much more when you do live together
he's making it seem as though he is looking for a made not a girlfriend

Answer 5

Yes, this is too much. He sure has a lot of nerve, but this is what some guys will do. Is he that good to you? What's wrong with his hands?
It is not your job, you are not the maid, and it is also insulting to you. You haven't even been together that long. He needs to hire a maid especially they are not expensive anymore. Also, often we ignore the "red flags" in a relationship; in my opinion, this is a big red flag.

Answer 6

I guess if you are into that sort of thing but I wouldn't do it. If you are and you have some extra energy, give me a call! BTW, does he change the oil in your car, gas it up and rotate the tires? Might as well get a fresh wax while he's at it! Seems only fair!

Answer 7

If you don't live together, then that definitely is inconsiderate.
Even if you did live together, he should at least do some of the work.
Let him know that you aren't up to that, and that you shouldn't have to do his work.
If he gets upset about that, then it really is his problem, you shouldn't have to deal with doing his work around the house.

Answer 8

I dont care, but my friend over here wants you to do the following: "dont really wash the dishes just put them away, and put them in odd places for example: but the cups where the pots should be, put the forks where the pots should be. Put his dirty laundry folded up and put in drawers even his underwear. If you ever cook for him, burn everything. Then dump him."
Wow my friend is going to be a horrible girlfriend, and she agrees with me.

Answer 9

actually, it's not enough. you need all the practice you can get to hone your wifely-duty skills. you could take some cooking classes at the community college, and things like that. in return, expect him to make a 6-figure income, and stay out late drinking most nights.

Answer 10

Well, it might be ok if he is willing to clean your house and do the dishes :)