Trying to find my place in her life. She keeps waffling about going back to her ex g/f. The ex knows I exist but not to the degree in which I do. My friend and I do quite a bit together and have a physical relationship as well. My friend claims she and the ex are "working things out' yet she does things with me all the time. I have tried leaving her alone and tried to walk away from it all but my feelings are very deep after 2 years of involvement with this woman. At times I feel she is using me but I can look in her eyes and see she is just as torn about it all as I am. The ex is the one who gets it all really. She is a selfish heartless person. The only reason she is in the picture is b/c she and my friend have a child together. My friend is the biological mother. The ex has no legal rights to the child. I guess I wonder if anyone thinks this will ever become more for me and this woman. We share an incredible bond. And there is love between us its just very confusing.
2006-09-17 11:06:21 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes you just have to take a stand on an issue.Do you want to spend the rest of your life being someones back up choice?Whats all her waffling about? They had their chance to be together and they obviously failed. Now you're in her life and somehow she is going brain dead and pretending things between her and the "X" deserve a second, third, fourth, whatever chance.You have every right to set limits on her behavior and to expect her to take your relationship more seriously. Aren't you worth someones undivided attention and love?Don't you deserve to be happy too?You have to feel a sense of your own self worth in the relationship. Look,if beoytch is taking you for granted then put a fire under her *** by putting a little distance between you.Don't be so available. Why don't you look up some other women friends and hang out with them more often?It's certainly not gonna hurt you to get out there and see if you have chemistry with other people.You're too wrapped up in HER life and she's not making it worth your time.Whats in it for you without some kind of commitment?You can't do anything about her X gf since your gf allows her to be to be a part of the package.It's up to her to grow up and make up her mind.. Does she really have so little respect for you that she expects you to just sit there and take whatever she hands out ?Geez...Don't you deserve better?
2006-09-17 11:30:30 · answer #1 · answered by Yahooanswerssux 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geeez and I sit at home just wishing I was a female so I could be in a Bi or Lesbian relationship, Gotta love those women, but honestly, listen to your female intuition, that little voice, Take care of yourself, if the GF wont lay it on the line for her ex,, that a big trouble sign right there,
2006-09-17 11:14:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to make a decision about the two of you - one way or the other. It's not fair for her to keep things going both ways. It's not fair for any of you. Ask her to seek counseling to try to work through her conflict with this and give her a deadline, say three months to let you know one way or the other. You deserve stability in your life and this is not good for you.
2006-09-17 11:09:47 · answer #3 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋