the wedding is not everything. it is really a waste of money for just one day, when you could spend that money on the honeymoon, or a downpayment on a house!
2006-09-17 11:05:24
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answered by wantme_comegetme 5
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I think that you can still have a great wedding even without a lot of money. You need to buy a few magazines such as modern bride and look at the great ideas. You can get a wedding dress second hand or go to david's bridal where they have sale's that are under 100 dollars!
You can make your own cake, or serve gourmet cupcakes instead, which are cheaper and quite chic. Flowers would be the most expensive, but there are ways to cut costs on even that. Computers allow you to make your own trendy invitations, all you need to do is buy some special paper at staples or walmart.
You can have the wedding at a historic site, they are quite cheap and very beautiful. You could even just have it outside at a friend or family member's place. You can have a friend take photos instead of a photographer. Do not give up on your wedding. There are ways to do it without spending 10,000, believe me. Or, you could just have a private little ceremony together and spend the money on a nice location such as Puerto Rico, which is cheaper than other islands, since it is the US. That would make it memorable, but affordable because you're not feeding 200 people.
In the end, you need to decide what is right. If you truly love each other and know in your hearts that you'll be there for eachother forever, than why rush? Why do you need to get married just now? Stay engaged for 5 years... and then, when you have more money, you can throw a huge bash and it will be perfect how you like. I mean, honestly... if you plan on being together forever, what is the difference if you get married tomorrow or 10 years from now?
2006-09-17 11:14:15
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answered by trash1ey 4
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The wedding is just one day. The marriage is what's important. Remember that when something goes wrong on that day (and be prepared, because it probably will). And of course he doesn't really understand - he hasn't been dreaming of the Cinderella wedding since he was 5, now has he? ;-)
OK, now I can't help with family issues except to tell you that if getting married is what both your heart and your gut are telling you to do then ignore the family. As far as money, you can do a LOT on a very small budget. Have a friend go on-line and get ordained and they can perform the ceremony for you (check your local laws). You can sometimes find the perfect dress at Goodwill or Savers or on-line or at a garage sale. You probably have friends with some musical talent who would be honored to provide music for you. If you can bake cupcakes you can make a cupcake tree (or maybe someone would do that for you as your gift). You can make the reception pot-luck and play your music from CDs or your i-POD. The point is that you can have your day and your big dress and feel beautiful, but you have to make a list of what's important and what you can do without, and then find creative ways to make it happen.
And the huge plus is that it will mean even that much more to you because it was more personal to you, instead of the huge pre-packaged insanity that some weddings have become.
Congratulations on finding your love!
2006-09-18 12:18:08
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answered by Anonymous
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The wedding is a lot of stress to plan and a lot more money than anyone should really spend on just one day. Why not just buy a cheaper bridesmaid's dress in white and let your bridesmaids wear any dress they want. Have a small outdoor ceremony in someone's yard or at a park where you don't have to pay. Then have a party as your reception. It should end up being really cheap and low key. The only important part is that you're happy and having fun. Congratulations on your engagement!! If the wedding is still important to you, maybe you can do a big one for your 5th or so anniversary, but really it's not worth the money.
2006-09-17 14:04:55
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answered by caitlinerika 3
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I never was one of those girls that had their wedding day planned
out long in advance. In fact, I didn't think I wanted to get married
at all, but I met my match on a trip to Peru and 1 1/5 yr later, we
got married. Neither of us had much money, but we had a great
wedding because we focused on what was more important:
having a day with our friends and family celebrating our love.
I actually borrowed a dress from a friend, my fiance was given
a black suit from another, our witnesses found their own
outfits, and all our friends and family pitched in with a pot-luck
reception. One friend asked if she could decorate the hall
we found for the day, another gave us the money for a simple
cake (that we decorated with fresh flowere) yet another made
me a bouquet and one more brought her camera and video cam
to take photos. Someone else made some mix cds for dancing.
We found a hotel on the internet for a reduced rate for 3 days
in Monterey CA .... all in all we spent about $1500 for
everything and had a great time. There was none of the
stress you see on some of those wedding reality shows, we
just focused on each other and being with those we loved.
The coolest thing is that later a friend gave me the best
compliment ever. He had just gotten engaged and his fiancee
asked him what kind of wedding he wanted and he told her
one like mine,. because it was the best wedding he had ever
been to.
The wedding is just a day, what is more important is the life
you are starting with your partner. Some girls focus so much
on the ceremony they lose sight of what is really important:
you and your love are beginning a journey together that will
hopefully last your lifetime . So don't regret what you cannot
have, think of all that the future holds.
(and you will be beautiful, even if you are wearing a cotton
shift.....its your heart that will make you glow.)
2006-09-17 11:20:16
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answered by Caiman94941 4
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The wedding isn't everything. You can still wear white and have a small wedding, do the reception at home and make the food yourself ahead of time. Or get alot of platters.
Some wedding dress places have sales try to catch one. These days you can do the wedding invites on your computer or at a Copy place for less. Go online and look up cheap weddings.
Heck you can even do an outdoor wedding and have a cookout. It isn't the wedding but how strong the vows are that matter.
2006-09-17 11:08:49
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answered by Pantherempress 7
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Weddings can be inexpensive AND beautiful. Money is not everything. Many people who have expensive weddings actually regret spending the money.
Get a bridesmaid dress in white or cream. Ta-da, a wedding gown at a fraction of the cost of "real". Carry a bible or rosary or other significant item instead of an expensive bouquet and you save another $200.
Have your ceremony and reception at a non-meal time of day so you do not have to serve a meal. Just cake and punch, or just wine and cheese, or just coffee and danishes, or just cocoa and cookies.
By some nice stationery and hand-write your invitations. (Get a Miss Manners book to do the etiquette for this properly, however!)
2006-09-17 17:31:03
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answered by Etiquette Gal 5
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First of all... CONGRATULATIONS!
It's quite possibly the biggest day (other than the birth of your children) of your lives. Being engaged is so exciting. Then along come all the dreams of the big day with the big crowd in the big church, with the big cake and the big dress with the big train flowing down the big aisle. After that you look to the big honeymoon. Then you get home and you realize you've got one BIG bill to pay.
Please, take my advice and don't start off your marraige that way. Plan a BIG marraige instead of a big wedding.
When my hubby and I met we were young and broke...and on our own. We built our relationship for three years (living together) before we decided to tie the knot. We knew we would have to pay for everything ourselves...and we did.
We were on a tight budget. I think with the honeymoon and everything we spent around 5 or 6 thousand dollars. We got to pay for it with overtime hours.
You can really save a lot of money by cutting the catering and the florist expenses. That's where most of your money goes.
The only thing I would say not to be too frugal on is your film, meaning your video and your pictures. That will be something you will look at for years to come. The food and flowers won't.
Don't worry about the planning too much, or you'll get too wrapped up in it and get stressed out and spend too much. Take your time and do it right, according to your budget.
It's your day, but most importantly than that, it's your LIVES, so enjoy the love of your life...both of you... and plan it forever.
2006-09-17 11:31:08
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answered by mom 4
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You don't need to have a big elegant wedding.What matters most is your marriage to your future husband.My husband and I got married at our district justice right before Memorial Day weekend and had a small elaborate reception the day after.I bought a white sundress at Fashion bug and had a small bouquet of seasonal flowers.My husband wore a suit and tie and a boutonniere.At our ceremony,We only had 8 people attended.The next day for our reception,We only had guest totaled 40 people as a lot of family members couldn't fly out to be with us or we did not get no response back when we sent out invitations.
We had the reception at my brother and sister in laws house and she had a beautiful garden trelece
For our dinner--We had a BBQ that was prepared by our brother in law with all the fixings,-macaroni salad,potato salad, coleslaw,potato chips,pretzels with dip fruit and vegetable platters,shrimp cocktails,All kinds of drinks
My mother in law took care of place settings and decorations
My husband's Aunt made us a beautiful yet tasty wedding cake
My sister in law videotaped and took photos of the both of us
We also had wedding music--Cds and a stereo with good surround sound
Everyone had a good time although it wasn't held in a country club or fire hall.
Best of all,We saved a lot of money.Total with food items,drinks,flowers,decorations was about $2000 Which was nice as we planned a beautiful honeymoon.
The saddest moment was wishing my parents was there.They are both deceased.I am sure my mother would love to walk me down the aisle.
Whatever you choose.Causal or Blacktie event.Make sure you look into options to save you money while planning your wedding and the most important thing to remember.This is your day, you plan on how you want the event to turn out
Congratulations
2006-09-17 11:22:28
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answered by wsm0628 3
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No, in fact most women put so many expectations on their wedding day, revolving their whole life around it, planning, planning, planning. So much is put into it, that their expectations usually arn't met, and they feel dissapointed. The whole thing becomes a let down. The most important this is the future of you and your husband. It's the little things that count. Wear a white dress, simple but lovely. You and your groom will be spending your lives together, and if the wedding day was the only thing that mattered, marriges would be pointless. Enjoy yourself and be happy, your in love! That is the importance of the matter.
2006-09-17 11:31:03
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answered by geishainkyoto 2
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No a wedding day isn't everything. All you really need (honestly) is love from each other. The wedding can be very simple and it doesnt have to be this expensive party.
Just whip out a very nice outfit for you and the groom, some very nice recipes and get a nice cake from a bakery. Then invite everyone over at someones house.
It may be ghetto, but loving each other is most important
Plus you need money for the HONEYMOON woo! CONGRATS
2006-09-17 11:13:58
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answered by PhizZingFree 4
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