We are having a destination wedding, therefore we are only inviting our family and the one best friend each of us has had our entire lives.
We both have a brother, who we'd like to be in the wedding.
I've chosen my best friend to be my maid of honor. My fiance has yet to decide between his best friend or brother as the best man (any opinions on that? Best friend makes more sense to me, but he's afraid his brother will be hurt if he does not pick him. They are not extremely close, as his brother is at the age where everything is about him and he has no time for his "old, boring brother.")
Either way, we are going to have our brothers in the wedding. I would like my brother to stand on my side. Would he be called a bridesman? Or does anyone know of anyone else who has done this and what they have called this person?
2006-09-17 10:55:00 · 7 answers · asked by abbya11111 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Couple of things to add-
It does matter what it is called because you put the wedding party's names and "titles" in the program.
Yes, I'd guess my fiance will always be friends with his best friend. You can't predict the future and I don't think his choice should be based on something you can't predict. It should be based on the past.
2006-09-17 13:26:32 · update #1
Oh, and yes...his mom will most likely be extremely upset if he doesn't choose his brother. This has NO bearing on the decision. That may seem mean, but you don't know her. Everything is about her at all times, and everything has to be dramatic. She already made a big deal about the fact that we're going to Jamaica (behind my back of course), when she doesn't have to pay for anything except her own way there. My parents are payign for EVERYTHING. The new rule for our wedding is-if you want to complain, don't go.
2006-09-17 13:29:09 · update #2
For your fiance: Unless his mother really wants his brother to be his best man, tell him to choose his best friend. The one right next to him should be the one he is closest to, as well as the one he would trust to not lose the ring.
For you: Yes, he would be called a bridesman. My best friend is male, and I'm considering having him up there with me. It is actually pretty common nowadays.
2006-09-17 11:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I helped you with the other thing so i thought i might try with this too. If your fiance is closer to his best friend than i think that he should definitely choose him. It is you and your fiance's big day, not the brothers. As long as you don't leave him out completely... which is does not sound like you are gonna do.. then i think the brother shouldn't be too affected. As for title I do actually like the title of bridseman. It sounds very simplistic and classic. And as for your future mom in law i would simply tell her you found a more fitting role for the brother and that her son is truly happy with his choice and that should make her happy too. Have a nice wedding! Ohh and also tell your mother in law to love you or hate you but that you are marrying her son so she better shut up about it either way.. at least for her son!
2006-09-17 15:13:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter what you call your attendants. Your brother should stand on your side during the ceremony and the pictures and he should wear what the other guys in the wedding wear. There are no hard and fast rules of who should be the best man. Will your fiance be friends with this guy forever? His brother will always be his brother. Your wedding sounds fabulous, good luck
2006-09-17 12:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was not the maid of Honor in my sisters wedding the brother will get over it.. If he has no time for his brother then go with the friend.
2006-09-17 11:03:04 · answer #4 · answered by conundrum_dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can call him a bridesman, or you can call all your attendants "Bride's Attendants".
He can have two best men. There is nothing saying he can't.
Even better:
You have a Maid of Honor and a Man of Honor, and your groom has two Best Men.
2006-09-17 19:05:13 · answer #5 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend was my Maid of Honor but since he was a man I jokingly called him my "Man of Honor" lol ;) I don't know exactly what the correct term would be but it really doesn't matter.
2006-09-17 11:01:48 · answer #6 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will be an attendant. Nothing wrong with that.
Just don't make him wear a matching dress.
2006-09-17 11:03:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋