2006-09-17 10:38:09 · 23 answers · asked by wsemarsr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Personally, I don't let tradition dictate my habits and routine. I go with my own personal feelings and gut instinct.
My daughter just got married, and not only did I pay a huge portion of the bill (her dad and I are divorced, and he covered the food only); but I was also the wedding planner as well.
Although my finances were pretty well tapped out, I did include some cash in with their card as well.
2006-09-17 11:24:28 · answer #1 · answered by ♫☼♥ ≈ Debbi ≈ ♥☼♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is getting married soon. I'm paying for the Rehearsal Dinner, I am paying for the shower as her bridesmaids are mostly all in college - and can barely afford a shower for 150 guests..plus it's my pleasure to do so, and yes, I am getting them gifts for both their wedding and shower. HOWEVER I feel what parents can or cannot afford is up to them and their checking accounts. I am certain your son & daughter-n-law appreciate whatever you can afford. Your love and support for them is most important.
If you would still like to get them a gift, there are things you can give to them that do not cost much -but will be memorable and cherished. A family Bible with a Geneolgy in the front of it to record their family history going forward. Buy an inexpensive table cloth -but embroider (or have embroidered) their name or monogram on it, etc. Things like that won't cost more that $25-$50 and will be cherished always, and passed down through generations.
2006-09-17 12:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by svmainus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What part of the wedding have you contributed toward? Have you only paid for the 'traditional' items that the grooms family normally pays for? If so, then definitely a gift is still in order. If you have contributed toward other wedding related things, such as their honeymoon, then I would say that is their gift. For example, my in-laws paid for the traditional items that the grooms family pays for, and they also sent us on a cruise for our honeymoon. The cruise was considered our 'wedding gift'.
2006-09-17 10:48:51 · answer #3 · answered by WittyPrincess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe how spoiled some of these people are. I'll admit I am spoiled and have been given pretty much everything but if my parents didn't give me a wedding gift but contributed a lot to the actual event, I wouldn't be upset. They've already given me so much and I would just be glad that they are there to share such a momentous occasion with me. Just do what you feel is right.
2006-09-17 10:49:41 · answer #4 · answered by richietcfan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not feel like that is necessary. You all are family so the formalities do not apply here. If you all are coming out of pocket for the wedding then your children should understand you not buying a gift. Especially not right away. Maybe down the line you could buy a house warming gift for the newlyweds.
2006-09-17 10:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by Charlee's Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you contribute. If you follow tradition and pay for:
- Rehearsal dinner party.
- Personal wedding attire.
- Travel and accommodations for groom's family.
Then it is customary to buy a gift, if you go above and beyond those customary expenses, then no gift is necessary unless you feel the need to.
2006-09-17 10:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by emp04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husbands parents bought a wedding shower gift and gave us 100 dollars in a card at the wedding. We have been to other wedding where the parents bought gifts also. they paid for the rehearsal dinner and were supposed to pay for a barrel of beer but never did.
2006-09-17 10:41:26 · answer #7 · answered by brunette 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some do, some don't. And yes, you generally can't go wrong with jewelry. I actually had to tell my husband to stop giving my jewelry, since I had more than I could wear. I also think an engraved picture frame would be nice, especially if you make a photo collage to go inside with different pictures from your relationship.
2016-03-27 06:16:21 · answer #8 · answered by Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't you will be considered cheap and stingy.
Hey, where I live, the groom's folks foot the bar bill---which is usually HUGE, so be thankful you get away with some cheap gift!
2006-09-17 10:42:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that contributing to the wedding is generous enough. It's just a thoughful gester, not an obligation.
2006-09-18 11:53:15 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋